Ghosting old "friends"

mrmaldoror · 2019-04-08T07:36:05+00:00

Just ghost. If he didn't earn a reply, that is his fault.

embracingtheredpill · 2019-04-08T12:48:07+00:00

Let's say for example you've eaten porridge your whole life. You eat porridge, people around you eats porridge, every day every meal. It's not much but you're happy. After all, every else is also eating it. There is brotherhood. You complain about porridge together. You relish porridge together. It doesn't get better than this.

Then one day, your start eating chicken. This is very strange. An army of people eating porridge, at the same time, in orderly lines. But this man was dissatisfied with porridge. He learnt about a concept called "hunting". He read about hunting. For a few months, since he didn't know much, he experimented with hunting and learnt more. Soon, he got quite good at hunting, and he caught a chicken.

No one had seen chicken before. The smell was delicious. You eat it with a relish no one eating porridge has known. Some people are astounded, and everyone is envious. They can see you eating chicken! Every day. You appear stronger, happier, more carefree. Some people are in awe, they ask you for tips, how you found your chicken, about hunting.

But one person turns his envy inwards. Why can't I get chicken? He asks. Hunting, hmph, what's so great in that? I could be a hunter if I wanted to, I just don't have the time. Chicken isn't that great anyway. But everyday he sees you eating chicken, everyday he sees you happier, everyday he sees people flocking to you. Where earlier you were together, and would laugh and cry about porridge, now you're not there, and you're eating chicken. Chicken looks so good, he won't admit it but he wish he had it. One day his envy goes too far. As you eat, he picks up your chicken and throws it over the canyon. You are perplexed. He sits there with a gr satisfaction.

You're making your life better. You're eating chicken. Bill, whose known you all his life, sees you improving, sees you doing better, feels betrayed and jealous. He whispers behind your back, he sabotages you.

Draw your boundaries, make your choice. Bill may be a great guy, a nice guy even. Nice guys add no value. Unless Bill adds value to your life, time to start slowly removing him from it. Unless he gets with the program and understands why you withdrew attention, cut him off. It doesn't sound like he will though. He's low value. You can try to reason with him, but in reality you need to be at a particular position in life to accept knowledge. Try, but I don't think he's there yet. You're young. There will be many more people like this in your life. Don't hang out with low value people otherwise you'll end up low value yourself. It hurts, but you'll move on, and do better. Bill may come around. Take him back if he adds value to your life. It's good to have betas around too sometimes, just not low value ones who sabotage you.

BornOnMay3rd · 2019-04-08T07:45:37+00:00

You feel guilty because you have to actively push this guy away through all his efforts. Keep ghosting.

2stoned0jaguar9tre · 2019-04-08T12:49:54+00:00

I dont fuck with worthless people whose project their insecurities on me to make themselves feel good.

KillaJewels · 2019-04-08T13:31:51+00:00

I got a couple of people like that in my life. We were super tight, but eventually people grow apart. And that's okay. I still have love for them, but I just don't fw them anymore for the reasons you mentioned.

Just let it be. You made the right decision. Don't second-guess yourself.

Project_Zero_Betas · 2019-04-08T21:12:17+00:00

But unfortunately, he is not giving easily and trying to contact me through other peoples facebook and ringing my phone from different phone numbers in a desperate attempt to get back into my life

This indicates a possible mental illness, no guy should be that obsessed with another guy (that have a non-sexual relationship with).

Title	Ghosting old "friends"
Author	Impossible_Benefit
Upvotes	12
Comments	8
Date	April 8, 2019 7:34 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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