Girlfriend is "asexual"

Work_In_Progress92 · 2017-09-26T22:37:06+00:00

Yeah...next her.

[deleted] · 2017-09-26T22:37:22+00:00

Leave

recon_johnny · 2017-09-26T22:46:55+00:00

I wrote the stuff below, but came back to emphasize this: It's your fucking fault. I'll explain after the following:

It means you nope the fuck out, ghost her--meaning NO FUCKING CONTACT.

No calling, no texting, no instagram. No "final talk to set things straight". You leave and you never see her again. And you're ok with that.

Because...from above...YOU didn't give her the right direction, YOU didn't make sure you were uncompromisingly sexual, YOU didn't game her, YOU don't project a strong, confident man, YOU haven't worked on your body, etc, etc, etc.

Look, I know you're young, so it's a really good lesson to learn early. Most men don't get this opportunity until much later in life, when they've invested serious time and money. So consider yourself ahead of the game.

You've probably started the RP thing, but haven't really committed yourself. THIS...what she's done...should absolutely solidify the principles here for you. You should take this as a time to reflect and learn--what could I do better, what do I need to improve on.

Maybe she's really gay dude. In that case, oh well. That was a pretty good opportunity for a threesome--which is no so prevalent at your young age.

So...you go. You don't contact her at all, nor do you respond to contacts from her...because women crave validation. By meeting with her, by talking with her; you give her the chance to make everything she's done ok in her mind. You don't need to, you understand that you've fucked up and need to improve...so you don't need to say anything. Work on you, work on game, work on building your body and mind. Read the stuff here, you'll be fine.

But you need to leave.

jb_trp · 2017-09-26T22:39:27+00:00

Find a girlfriend who is compatible with you.

jay_jay_man · 2017-09-27T02:28:53+00:00

Ok you're young so let me explain something important about relationships to you that you should keep in mind when considering any potential partner. Sexually compatibility is crucial to the success of any personal relationship. Sexual compatibility is the ability of all partners to get sexual satisfaction from a relationship.

Now your girlfriend claims to be asexual. Whether she is or isn't doesn't matter. what matters is that she won't be interested in getting sexual with you anytime soon. You, on the other hand, are a young (hetero)sexual male. You want to happily bang her brains out all the time. Clearly, you and her are not compatible because when she is not fucking you, her sexual needs are being met and yours aren't; inversely, when you are fucking her and meeting your sexual needs, she'll be annoyed, hate you, or at the very best be indifferent - her sexual needs for no sex aren't being met. Both of you can't be happy in this relationship, either you suffer or she suffers.

The best move you could make is end this relationship and find a girl that you like who wants to have sex with you. Let this "grey-asexual" find a "grey-asexual" boyfriend.

EntitledShitHead · 2017-09-27T02:24:56+00:00

Grey-asexual. come on man, you need to have some respect. Dump her on the spot.

dr_warlock · 2017-09-26T23:12:04+00:00

Asexual with you.

First 'serious boyfriend', you damn kids and your nitpick categories.

rwequaza · 2017-09-27T02:09:57+00:00

It sounds like you're a virgin and you need to learn how to demonstrate sexuality and physicality. Getting to second base is a green light to third, which is a green light to go all the way. Try it out, if she resists back off to whatever you were doing before then try again in a few minutes. If she keeps denying you sex, listen to everyone else and HARD NEXT.

LordThunderbolt · 2017-09-27T03:16:02+00:00

And you are single.

I didn't even have to read your post

Omn1c1d3 · 2017-09-27T06:02:03+00:00

*Girlfriend is single

Fixed.

[deleted] · 2017-09-27T08:47:50+00:00

That's a made up libtard term that obviously means nothing. Move on. She may be unredeemable.

GayLubeOil · 2017-09-27T09:46:00+00:00

Want to here a joke? Your future ex girlfriend after 5 years of feminism. She's well on her way.

mcr00sterdota · 2017-09-27T05:12:42+00:00

Cya.

max_peenor · 2017-09-27T05:20:08+00:00

Time to find a new hobby.

satanicpriest13 · 2017-09-27T11:11:07+00:00

Next.

quicklogaccount · 2017-09-27T00:25:27+00:00

Bro, requirement zero for a committed relationship is she's crazy horny and can't avoid fucking you against all good judgement.

She'll be like that for some other guy, rest assured, but it's pretty unlikely that she'll be like that for you. You've caught a very poor label on the relationship, I can't really find any circumstances that would making reframing worth the hassle for you.

Either way, if you feel like it, be attractive and escalate. She'll have lots of insecurities and reservations but she'll eventually come around them instead of rationalizing shit as "I'm asexual".
Easier said than done though.

Triadis3 · 2017-09-27T02:28:35+00:00

"with you"

the_real_lunch_box · 2017-09-27T12:03:40+00:00

have you even looked at the sidebar. next.... at least u know about TRP at such a young age good luck.

TheRedMemeKnight · 2017-09-27T14:24:09+00:00

Okay here's the deal. Coming from another guy who fell into the virgin asexual unicorn trap. I tried everything I possibly could have imagined a few years back. She would not have let me go down on her, she never wanted to put my dick in her mouth. Had anal a few times, fucked her a lot, but in the end I was frustrated as fuck sexually. So basically it worked like this, I ignored her shittests and initiated on her all the time, we fucked every time. She digged me just taking her, but I felt bad as fuck. Now: she graduated her profession school and I made her a expensive present and actually talked about how I feel about her: voila she dumped me as her inner soul started deeming me beta as fuck. If You're happy for years and years of initiating and only missionary and 24/7 ignoring Your needs. Good luck on continuing. My advice: Just break up with her, there are other women. Before You fuck up, fall into unicorn shit and she dumps You.

pentakiller19 · 2017-09-27T16:22:19+00:00

If you feel like she will put out, stay. If not, next her.

rwequaza · 2017-09-27T20:27:21+00:00

Thanks for the advice guys! I'll update how things go

BluePillMike · 2017-09-27T02:29:17+00:00

You have to learn to love and accept others, particularly those who are one of the 60 + "non-traditional" genders. It would be cruel to leave her, just as it would be equally cruel to subject her to the penes.

htbf · 2017-09-27T01:41:42+00:00

😂

Title	Girlfriend is "asexual"
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	7
Comments	32
Date	September 26, 2017 10:36 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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