Help with a stutter.

vandaalen · 2016-01-09T20:49:54+00:00

Speech-language pathologist or just not giving a fuck. Just pretend it did't happen or make fun of it without giving it too much attention, if it happens in a conversation.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-10T08:41:43+00:00

I was sitting in a restaurant the other day listening to a guy at the next table over who was clearly on a date.

He talked non stop trying to impress her with all is worldly wisdom and exciting adventures he had experienced.

He was fairly good at sharing a story but everything in her body language was telegraphing that she was becoming increasingly annoyed by him.

If I had known him I would have texted him and said dude shut the fuck up and give her a chance to be part of the conversation.

You are competing against men who do not know how to shut the fuck up and listen.

They talk to much in the beginning and than listen to much after they have closed the deal, doing everything backwards.

Your speech related problems may be a good thing.

Learn to use your face to show interest. Your face as a method for communication is one of the most powerful tools at your disposal.

It is also your weakness along with body language as anyone who has been interrogated by law enforcement knows because it can give away when you are lying.

The emotional subtleties of your body language and facial features will do as much if not more to seduce a woman than anything that can come out of your mouth.

You are focusing on a weakness (negative) and completely missing where true power lives.

Not only do women wish more men would "hear them" they react with powerful positive emotions when a man does.

Answer in short sentences including one or two word questions.

Remember what your facing is saying that is behind the words coming out of your mouth.

Women want men to be attracted to what is inside them.

Convince a woman of that and she is yours for as long as you want her.

MentORPHEUS · 2016-01-10T01:29:12+00:00

First of all, work with a professional speech therapist for your stutter, they can likely kick-start your improvement.

If social anxiety is a trigger, improve your threshold by confronting this. Debate/argumentation, public speaking, community theater, Toastmasters are some ideas, plus you could simply stand in a busy public area and read the Bible or The Origin of Species aloud. Pushing your public boundaries far will help when you're one on one with a date.

As others have said, own what you can't reduce or eliminate; it is an indelible part of you. I have my own little quirks, plus an affinity for Spoonerisms passed down from my Dad, and Granddad who lived during the time of Professor Spooner himself.

"It is kisstomary to cuss the bride." ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)

Snxwe · 2016-01-09T23:00:45+00:00

I know a girl or two who really dig that kind of thing.

disgruntledearthling · 2016-01-10T00:15:07+00:00

Sometime stuttering can be decreased naturally as you age, as you get more confident, and, if you are a pot smoker, stopping that. Been there, done that. I still get hung up with certain words and letters that I try avoiding, which works well dating since its all upbeat and free-form. I don't mean to be a jerk about it but Spoonerism looks like a fun handicap - it sort of flows with cocky-funny dating attitude and you can probably make it appear 'intentional'. Good luck!

ToBecomeSuperHuman · 2016-01-10T06:04:41+00:00

I was born with a stutter.
I used to let it affect me significantly; avoidance, etc. But you'll come to a point where you need to make a decision, if you're unhappy with your inability to speak fluently you can do one of two things: accept it as other users have mentioned or work towards gaining some control.
Feel free to tell people if you wish (if it comes up), most initially don't know how to react to the information but you can dictate how they should be acting with your own behaviour.
A stutter may or may not be with you for life (unless it's a nervous stutter), it's something that you'll need to address at some point if you don't want to wallow in unhappiness. I cannot address spoonerism as I have not experienced it personally.

For those that aren't aware a chronic stutter is generally hereditary. It's a result of an ill functioning neurotransmitter that communicates between the brain and throat control (for speech). It has been theorised that ~40% of individuals can be cured of their stutter by supplementing 300mg of thiamine (vit B1) daily as the specific neurotransmitter that isn't functioning correctly relies on B1 and that those affected have a poor uptake of B1 in the brain.
edit* I could be incorrect about the root cause. But take a read of the link, it's pretty informative. Link: http://www.stuttering.com/Thiamin%20Protocol.pdf

Napolean-complex · 2016-01-09T22:33:42+00:00

There is a guy at my work that stutters quite a bit. The only time he doesn't is when he is laying out a massive string of curse words.

Also when he is hammered after work he seems to stutter less.

Professor_Red · 2016-01-10T03:33:21+00:00

As a former stutter and someone who had terrible speech trouble through elementary school and rock bottom speaking confidence, I feel your pain. Took speech classes in school to help my speaking, and this was some of the things they had us do.

I don't know how old you are, but if you are still in school, take a class which requires you to speak in front of people alot. I took a debate class my freshman year of high school and prior to that, I could barely speak in front of a group of friends, let alone strangers. Afterwards, my public speaking confidence was sky high and had no issues speaking publicly in front of a smallish group(10-15).

Whenever you read your required red pill reading( you are reading, right?) read out loud to yourself. Focus on slowing down, breathing in correct places, getting correct pronunciation, and just getting more comfortable speaking out loud.

Also, as /u/vandaalen said, just dgaf and laugh it off when it happens.

nathanisfat · 2016-01-10T04:30:23+00:00

Try singing. Not even kidding. Music and speech use different parts of the brain.

Title	Help with a stutter.
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Date	January 9, 2016 8:26 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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