How do I fix my subconscious?

RayneXero · 2020-01-26T10:05:00+00:00

Without knowing your life story, nobody could say for sure why this happens.

What's important is that you overcome it. You need to take active steps to work through these issues.

I would recommend cultivating a higher purpose for yourself. If you have something you're actively working towards so much so that you almost start obsessing over it, any woman that walks into your life will be almost inconsequential.

Is this fix the best? Probably not, but it's a start.

Once you find a goal for yourself and push for it with every fibre of your being, you'll start to naturally make yourself your own mental point of origin.

When you're your own mental point of origin, then nothing can shake you. No woman can derail you because you're firmly rooted in your own reality.

I would suggest some deep introspection into yourself to find the root cause of this.

Keep on keeping on brother.

Batman-von-Pepe · 2020-01-26T10:06:51+00:00

You're scared. You're scared because you most likely don't know, or you just tell yourself you don't know, what to do if these simple interactions move into the next stage.

Right now without thinking what would you do if you started an interaction with one of these women they show interest then hint about doing something right now? Do you have an answer right away or are you thinking about it...are you still trying to figure it out? That's fine if you are, this catches me often too.

Sit down and quickly sketch out what your ultimate goal would be then create a small step-by-step plan, like you're planning a project, that delivers you to your end goal. This exercise usually allows me to find where I was deficient and therefore subconsciously causing myself to fail because I was afraid of success. An example, when I was renovating my place I had shit everywhere to the point where I wouldn't even have friends over let alone women. Turns out this was a huge block for me. Not just throwing a wrench into logistics but it would actually cause me to act the same way you are and broadcast the "not interested, leave me alone" vibe.

CuriousIncel2 · 2020-01-26T08:55:37+00:00

Abandonment issues.

madfrombrad · 2020-01-26T14:09:51+00:00

Too much oxytocin, not enough testosterone

WiterS2 · 2020-01-26T14:38:26+00:00

What could be the reason? Failed relationships trauma? Childhood sex abuse?

Did you suffered that?

You may have low self esteem issues, which require psychological treatment.

The RP has a lot of useful stuff , but almost none on those issues.

Real Social Dynamics does a lot of work on self esteem combined with pick up, but still is not pro psychological help.

Do you realize that the primary and prioritary thing women want from men is sex, not relationships?

Do you realize that you have inherent worth just for being a male, and you don't need to prove that you have worth, to be accepted and loved?

Are you ashamed of sex?

FereallyRed · 2020-01-26T10:09:59+00:00

You still a virgin?

TheHyperHuman · 2020-01-26T12:21:45+00:00

Well did you have traumatic relationships or breakups? Were you sexually abused in the past? Based on the info you provided and taking into account we don't know anything else about you, it could be any number of reasons for your behaviour. Nevertheless, you know you have a problem with self-sabotaging behaviour and only you can figure out what's the root of the said behaviour.

In the meantime the only thing that will help you remedy your issues is taking conscious measures to make yourself more socially active with girls.

psychotropy · 2020-01-27T04:51:00+00:00

I'm a therapist... need to go to therapy. Barring that, I'd highly recommend taking up meditation in a serious way.

Lostfate09 · 2020-01-26T10:39:15+00:00

Research NoFap and embrace it.

GushKaka · 2020-01-26T10:44:55+00:00

Nofap will help

Title	How do I fix my subconscious?
Author	unheardphenomena
Upvotes	9
Comments	23
Date	January 26, 2020 8:39 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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