How do I gain confidence and self esteem?

ivanbxng · 2020-05-21T19:29:00+00:00

Try to start lifting weights. If you get big and strong your confidence will go through the roof.

theunconquored · 2020-05-21T19:37:59+00:00

We've just been having this discussion in another thread. Do you really want this? Here are two things to get you on the right path.

Stop doing things that make you worse. Maybe you aren't ready to go full speed ahead right now. Maybe you are having a rough time. But you can stop doing the things that you KNOW are making the problem even worse. Can you stop going in reverse, at the least? You know that porn, excessive masturbation, and shitty food are taking you in the opposite direction you want to go, so give up the porn and eat better. Jack it once a week at most, and without porn. You have to stop going backwards before you start going forwards.
Find something small that you can take responsibility for. Jordan Peterson talks about cleaning your room. Maybe it's flossing your teeth. Maybe it's showering and putting on decent clothes every day, even if you have nothing else to do. The point is, do ONE thing today. Let yourself be proud of yourself for doing it. Then do it again tomorrow. Build on it, slowly. Get a little better each day. Build some momentum. Take pride in your small improvements and keep going. If you have a bad day, pick up the next day and forgive yourself and keep going.

You're better than 90% of 17 year olds. Want to know why? Because you want to be better than you are. That's rare, in and of itself. Be proud of yourself. Women are down the road, but not as far as it might seem. You get the women by building yourself up and caring about yourself more than you care about them.

"A little better than yesterday" makes massive changes a lot faster than you realize. If you start now and keep fucking going, think where you could be by the time you're 20. Or 30. Or 40. The hot 18 year old chicks you're looking at now are looking at guys like me. A big, strong, lean, Dominant 39 year old gorilla with gray hair. You have LOTS of time to have everything you want. You can be so much better than I am. I didn't start until just before my 35th birthday.

comcain · 2020-05-21T21:36:48+00:00

Confidence comes over time from a series of successful experiences. Try a lot of stuff long enough to get good at it. You're getting a guitar? Good! Go skydiving. Ride a horse. Rollerblade. Do new stuff!

Women will come with time.

Cheers

notWhatIsTheEnd · 2020-05-22T00:04:31+00:00

Easy, read the sidebar.

2020-05-21T19:47:55+00:00

This question has been answered many times. Search asktrp.

You seem to already have a plan, but want more plans as if having more hypothetical plans will accelerate the process. Execute on the plan you currently have.

Confidence is internal and comes with knowing yourself. Everything about yourself. What you know, what you don't know. You'll be confident when you get your mindset to a point where you can accomplish two things:

Teach and share what you know
Let go of the ego and learn what you don't know

With the above mindset, you have covered all your bases: knowledge and non knowledge.

To be a good teacher focus on your quality of learning and experience over quantity. Don't try to quickly get to a certain place to accelerate; you won't develop depth and hence no confidence. Rather once you have made plan, devote full attention to it and enjoy the process. You can have a check point every now and then to see how you're progressing by sharing and/or teaching what you learnt.

jojojijo333 · 2020-05-21T20:26:55+00:00

You know, if life had meaning we wouldn’t be free to live it like we want, so why don't you choose to be confident?

Title	How do I gain confidence and self esteem?
Author	TeamLitten
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Date	May 21, 2020 7:17 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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