I have been dating my LTR for 7 months. Prior to this we casually dated for 2 months. I’ve known her for a year now.

She had always given me tons of affection over the course of the relationship, and I was in control due to my knowledge of TRP.

Things have been spiraling downward since an incident last weekend:

THE INCIDENT: was at her house, she kept trying to initiate sex. I wasn’t interested at the exact time. She kept trying to initiate despite me not being “in the mood.”

eventually I got into the mood, by pretty aggressively fingerling her and beginning to have sex with her. I guess I was a little to aggressive and she got mad that i squeezed her sides too hard while fingering and hurt her.

I vehemently apologized.

EVER SINCE THIS INCIDENT:

  • constantly nagging me
  • there was a time one day where her phone was turned off for 4 hours
  • she argues with me about minutia
  • she complains that I “underestimate her” and “don’t believe in her abilities
  • she seems less head over heels for me
  • I have slight suspicions of her timing a branch swing
  • she constantly says that “I don’t care about her enough and I don’t listen to her talk enough”

Some things I have apologized for because they are true, but other things seem mostly bullshit. And she’s just trying to argue.

  1. are these comfort tests or shit tests?
  2. what should be my plan of action to re establish equilibrium in the relationship

TL:DR I denied LTR sex a week ago. Then had sex with her anyways but was too aggressive. Since then she has been crying, nagging, disrespecting me, displaying some suspicious behavior, and seems less interested in me.... how do I fix this?