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How do I know once I am perceived as alpha by other alphas?

totallyAlphaguy
November 12, 2017
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Title How do I know once I am perceived as alpha by other alphas?
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totallyAlphaguy
Upvotes 2
Comments 17
Date November 12, 2017 7:33 AM UTC
(8 years ago)
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Comments

[–]SnugglySadist16 points17 points18 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

If you are an alpha, why would you care?

[–]IBeMadToo7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Probs try to AMOG you. Or you'll get along. Both cases have happened to me.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points9 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

If you need to ask you aren't alpha. If men respect you and defer to you or compliment you or assume you do things such as have alot or sex when you don't mention anything about it they view you as alpha

[–]totallyAlphaguy[S] -3 points-2 points-1 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link

What are the signs that they respect you or defer to you?

[–]SoloAlbum3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link

They're interested in what you think. Stop talking about yourself and pay attention to how interested people are in you. Are you able to lead in a group?

[–]totallyAlphaguy[S] -1 points0 points1 point 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

Yes I am able to lead a group. I've always been a natural leader. Im asking because I want to know what are the signs that they are interested

[–]Morphs_1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Do you want to lead or do people expect you to lead? That's a big difference.

On social role theory, there are two types of leaders. The formal leader is usually (self)appointed, this is often the case at work. However, the informal leader is the person who everyone looks at when a decision has to be made or when an opinion has to be formed.

You could try suggesting things to the group and see if and which people follow.

But how about this: aren't you more alpha is you don't care about the group and go your own way? Those who follow are your followers and to them you're the alpha.

[–]gg_s0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

what are the signs that they are interested

Interested in what?

[–]totallyAlphaguy[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

In what I think

[–]Captnjack2227 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

You won’t because true alphas treat everyone petty much the same. They don’t put women on a predistile and they don’t put other alpha dudes on a pedistile. People confuse “alpha” with “obnoxious douche” a lot. You are only the alpha when you can pretty much control the frame of the situation whenever you want.

[–]DatingCoach1110 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

Most people submit to you.

[–]DiscordantMonk0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link

I don't care who you are, if you're in my space I will acknowledge you.

[–]codeandlift 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

In all interactions with groups of people, people subconsciously create a hierarchy of the people there. If you're at the top of that hierarchy, people will look to you when statements are made, and seek your approval from what he says. You have the highest value to them. The group perceives you as alpha when you have the highest value in the group. Outside of group settings, how you carry yourself and whether or not you lift often has the greatest influence on being perceived as alpha by others. Do you generally take up space? The easiest way to do this is to lean back and spread your legs while seated, and put your arms around the back of whatever you're sitting at. Are you big, in terms of muscle? Do you feel big?

[–]totallyAlphaguy[S] 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link

I take up space. One guy who has less than 10% bf and a good physique even commented saying that I have excellent posture. I am not big in terms of muscle or height (5'8.5 and somewhere between 15-20% bf)

[–]codeandlift 1 points1 points1 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

At that height, you need to really focus on lifting and putting on solid muscle. This is a factor that strangers will immediately see and the impression that you create from being big gives others the perception of alpha without even interacting with you. I'm sure you've experienced this when in public and seeing a guy who is big and has a solid aesthetic yourself.

[–]dahcima 3 points4 points5 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

Bro, at that height it doesn't make a difference. Being a manlet at 5'8 doesn't exactly help oneself achieving alpha status. It may help in other ways, for example, he may develop more discipline and self control by exerting himself in the gym more often but even then there are other disciplines that he could master which would achieve the same net result with greater benefits.

My suggestion would be to learn Brazilian jiu jitsu and take it from there /u/totallyAlphaguy. You're not an alpha, don't even use it in your screen name. Walk into a BJJ gym and sign up for a class, if after ten years you manage to survive, then and only then as a black belt will you truly realize how flawed your approach was in feigning alpha strategy.

Being an alpha comes from confidence which comes from accomplishing goals you've set for yourself. I don't perceive myself to be an alpha, I just am naturally confident - yet not arrogant. Because I look somewhere between Nick Bateman and Ryan Gosling, modeling scouts have approached me out on the street. That sort of validation accompanied with the attention I receive from women out and about allows me to possess the natural confidence I naturally exude when it comes to the way I look. I know when I walk into a room, I'm likely the best looking guy in the room and everyone knows it.

Think of it like armor, if that makes sense. That analogy can be applied to virtually any facet of my life. I know I'm confident in the bedroom, because I know I'm blessed with great genetics and I hone by body in the gym. There is no rainbow, without the rain. By pushing myself to the max working out, be it sprints, interval swims, lifting or calisthenics, I know it will pay off in the long term because women will go crazy for it. To take it a step further, I'm confident in my abilities in the bedroom because frankly my cardio is infinitely better than most men and my dick is around 8 inches solid (most men are 5 tops). I can hit some taken girl's posterior fornix for as long as she wants because (a) I have the natural god given tools to do so and (b) all of those cardio heavy workouts have given me a gas tank second to none. All of this parlays into a larger confidence boost because I know women will be crazy about me afterwards, which will only allow me to believe in who I am.

The same goes for fighting, I am confident in my abilities to fuck another guy up because I've spent hours in the gym honing my craft and quite frankly getting my ass kicked and learning from those ass kickings. I mastered my helicopter sweep out of necessity not choice because my takedown defense wasn't that great. I learned how to close the distance when fighting taller fighters, and I learned how to bully smaller fighters during sparring. I learned the best counter to a left hook is a right hand down the center a la Badr Hari because I had been hit with countless left hooks before. My confidence in landing that right hand was due to my comfortbility in learning and adapting and trying to become a better fighter and in essence human being.

So my suggestion to you is this, you're not an alpha. You never were. This is the first day for the rest of your life. Go gain some confidence by challenging yourself and pushing yourself to your maximum then you will become an alpha.

[–]Captnjack2222 points 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link

yeah, this is why people get alpha and obnoxious douche confused.

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