How do I make small talk ?

fclarkeson · 2018-12-02T17:48:12+00:00

Just be confident. Ask them questions about what they do, where they’re from etc. So long as you come across as confident and not too pompous they will like you and conversation will be easy

RedSkeller · 2018-12-03T02:37:30+00:00

Someone will come in here and explain FORDS, or you can google it. Basically every conversation is finding common ground, actively listening and being agreeable. For guys cars, women and sports will always be a common denominator. I have no idea what women actually talk about but I try to curb things immediately to sex because I get bored otherwise. How to win friends and influence people is a good start.

chazthundergut · 2018-12-03T05:17:56+00:00

The most important thing is to maintain a masculine frame while talking to her.

Stay relaxed. Take your time. Breathe slow and deep. Speak in a deep, relaxed voice.
Ask questions. Do not pepper her with questions. But ask her an open ended question and let her talk. Chicks love to hear themselves talk so it is easy to just wind em up and let them seduce themselves. Actually listen to what she says in response, and then ask related follow up questions.
She will inevitably ask you questions to check to see if you're a social retard. Take your time, think about what you're gonna say, and keep your responses short and direct with just enough details to suggest your high value but never any bragging. It is always better to maintain some mystery, so give few details and keep it short. And follow up with good questions and good listening.
There will inevitably be silence during your conversation. That is okay. Let the tension build a little bit. Demonstrate easy relaxed confidence even when there is an "awkward silence"
Use good eye contact when speaking to her. Look her directly in the pupils, but not for too long. Just a couple moments of direct eye contact, and then lazily scan the room.

That's pretty much it. The rest of the work will be done by her hamster.

Terdmuffin · 2018-12-02T22:42:14+00:00

Make an observation about your surroundings. Ask follow up questions to something the other person says.

youareshandy · 2018-12-03T16:54:52+00:00

Compliments are a good way to start small talk.

Title	How do I make small talk ?
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Date	December 2, 2018 5:36 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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