How do I stop using alcohol as a crutch? I hate depending on it

vandaalen · 2019-06-15T22:00:53+00:00

As someone who self-medicated with alcohol for over twenty years: There is no magic trick. You just stop drinking it. That is all.

beefthathasredmiddle · 2019-06-15T21:39:50+00:00

I mean man there isn’t a quick fix to this game. One day you’ll realize that nobody gives a fuck and the people who do give a fuck are losers. You should also stop drinking when your sad, that’s unhealthy.

bluepillcarl · 2019-06-16T00:40:11+00:00

I am actually in the middle of sobriety after over 20 years of substance abuse so please hear me out.

It started when I was 14 years old on a trip with my friends and a couple beers and fitting in turned to getting drunk every weekend and got worse through college and then into my young professional life and then I started using cocaine a lot. It got so bad at a point I wrecked two cars and finally got caught and got a DUI last year. On paper it said 50 days of jail. The main consistency is that I always worked out but couldn't ever seem to get in good shape and have a subpar sex life because of it. I'd wake up in the morning and get huge anxiety wondering if I'd be able to drink again or feel compelled to go to a bar as soon as it opened. I'd get the shakes and start pacing. It is a terrible feeling of compulsion but you can get over it. I tried AA and therapy, which didn't work for me.

I ended up packing up all my stuff and moving away from the bar that was in walking distance. I actually ended up moving out of state and to the beach and really told myself that I didn't need that bar scene. I went 6 weeks without alcohol and then I went to a bar and sat there and had a few drinks and realized how shitty it is to go back down that path. I really believe that initial dedicated 6 weeks was key to rid my body of all that toxicity. Every day I go to the gym and work on my muscle groups and have my diet all worked out. After my gym sessions I go for a swim at the beach and its having a snowball effect because I'm starting to appreciate how my body is starting to look. I feel like I finally have control over my self. I'm going on 2-3 dates a week now and when I go out with these broads I tell them I'm not drinking for my diet. I've started to enjoy life without alcohol.

RisingUpAgain · 2019-06-15T22:42:00+00:00

Stop living in your mind and start inhabiting your body

CaptainKidd96 · 2019-06-16T04:41:52+00:00

I started drinking for the same reason when I was around 16-17 but quit 2 years later. Some of the dumb shit I said and did as a drunk teenager still haunts me til this day and makes me cringe.

There's literally no point in getting drunk. I still drink some alcohol a couple of times a month but I never ever get drunk, even if there are no girls around. I simply like being in control of my senses and of what I say.

A trick that I use when going to house parties where people get shit faced and pressure you intro drinking is I take a bottle of beer, drink it, maybe even drink two, but then I fill up my bottle with tap water and continue the night as usual.

LifeTopic · 2019-06-15T22:27:47+00:00

Just realise you are way higher value than any woman. They are lucky to be speaking to you. Illimitable man has a good blog and writes about narccisisim.

You need to be narcissistic, think that you are above these girls. From a biological perspective men are superior. We are stronger than them and can form deeper relationships. We are better. You need to internalise beliefs like that. Because once you do. You'll stop caring what these girls think. And that's when that little voice in your head is going to die.

PolesWithGoals · 2019-06-16T05:02:34+00:00

Read “the subtle art of not giving a fuck”

Granite_Pill · 2019-06-16T14:17:01+00:00

A crutch is something you lean on for support when you are wounded. Heal yourself and you won't need crutches anymore.

[deleted] · 2019-06-18T03:32:06+00:00

Crutches are things that help you walk easier. Alcohol, in the other hand...

TheH1dd3nFear · 2019-06-16T02:12:25+00:00

Lift. Get into bench pressing man and dumbbells if you haven't. Your mind will be vastly stronger.

0io- · 2019-06-16T04:22:57+00:00

Read Allen Carr's Easy Way to Control Alcohol.

furcryingoutloud · 2019-06-16T04:51:22+00:00

Here's a novel idea. Stop drinking. If you can't stop drinking, then you go back to square one and begin reading the sidebar. Self control should be at the top of your list.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2019-06-16T06:58:54+00:00

What is one time you escalated physically, when you hadn't been drinking?

Describe what happened briefly. In what ways did you feel positive about the outcome? (note: I'll need to ask a follow up question about this.)

What kind of signals /IOI's would you like from a woman you were alone with, that would help you get rid of the tape loop/overanalyzing/self-doubt type thoughts?

MagnetoWned · 2019-06-16T19:32:54+00:00

Smoke weed. You really won't give a shit

0x9A30D7C49714D98000 · 2019-06-15T22:38:56+00:00

Switch to using phenibut when you go out. There's a subreddit about it, a lot of people use it for for interviews or presentations, or instead of drinking when going out (it kills a lot of your desire to drink and relaxes you without fucking you up), but I should mention that many people have abused it irresponsibly and had withdrawals, so be careful.

NextForever · 2019-06-16T00:02:04+00:00

Transition to weed, then transition to art/passion, and then stay sober with periodic CBD oil use to counteract withdrawals/anxiety.

Also, roughly 95% of alcoholics are hyperglycemic. Cut the sugar/grains/carbs and your cravings will dramatically decrease.

Good luck mate, I’m stuck on the weed transitioning to art phase.

Title	How do I stop using alcohol as a crutch? I hate depending on it
Author	Gunslinger1122
Upvotes	26
Comments	25
Date	June 15, 2019 9:31 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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