How do you escalate in a coffee date?

robbiedigital001 · 2019-02-01T12:29:59+00:00

Look up ways to escalate. Touch - touching the arm etc, verbal - slowly making conversation more sexual. Location - moving them to somewhere where something more sexual can happen

Trposh · 2019-02-01T16:15:01+00:00

Pick a location that has both coffee and beer.
Sit next to each other at the bar or on a couch. Do not sit across from each other at a table as it's damn near impossible to break the physical touch barrier in that case.

I've had this problem recently - had a girl say to me "I'm not available tonight but I'm free for a coffee on Saturday." Thanks to my BP programming I almost replied "never been on a coffee date lmao what time do people even do coffee dates on a Saturday rofl" but fortunately I caught myself in time to avert disaster. Instead, I thought of places that serve both beer and coffee, and there's actually a hipster bar right next to my apartment that fits the bill. She can have her coffee, I still get to drink beer, we can sit at the bar so kino shouldn't be a problem, and it's low investment, which is always preferable on first dates.

UHM-7 · 2019-02-01T13:07:02+00:00

bruh seriously, look at your post history... try reading the basics first

PotatoWatt · 2019-02-01T13:33:17+00:00

Hey dude, im gonna have a girl to girl talk with you. If it was easy, everyone would be doing it. Its not that hard too, but your overthinking makes it harder, I know.

What you need is practical examples, so you can land your overthinking coppter into a sturdy base. Check up RDSMAX and other channels like that and their infields, take what you want and store it in your brain.

IMO: Coffee date, touch to emphasize points, tease her verbally, turn something she said sexually and give her the eyes, lots of eye contact, and slowly touch more and more using your comfort zone as guidance, otherwise you will come off as extremely creepy as it will not come natural.

After you touch her a lot, leave the venue to somewhere else, this is up to you to where like another coffee shop, a park dunno dude something, and then just hold her sideways jokingly, grab her hand and see if the vibe is good go for the kiss otherwise take another date or something, just you do you. Not every situation is the same, some if you dont kiss your're done, rip. Others it will take 3 dates for her to get comfortable, once you have the basics down it will get easier.

bestsparkyalive · 2019-02-01T19:34:01+00:00

Man you gotta work on yourself

mrmaldoror · 2019-02-01T12:28:47+00:00

Get in touch with your animal side, exude energy and she will follow suite.

TRP8myfeels · 2019-02-01T12:36:48+00:00

So you read about kino?

Title	How do you escalate in a coffee date?
Author	Sitchnatio
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	February 1, 2019 12:26 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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