How do you find a girlfriend?

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CaseOfInsanity · 2015-04-13T10:27:30+00:00

How do I know if there's some kind of "chemistry" between me and a girl? Is it just a gut feeling that I'll notice, when I feel that I should try to make that girl my girlfriend?

When you smile at her and she smiles back, when you ask her name and then she asks your name. When you feel that it's right to move onto the next level and you can feel that she feels so too, without saying a word.

RichieFinn · 2015-04-13T10:25:28+00:00

You are over thinking EVERYTHING right now.

Calm down, read more, you say you aren't some weird ugly autistic nerd, but your attitude is reeking of needing girls to give you your self worth..

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GC0W30 · 2015-04-13T11:27:44+00:00

If I take a girl on a date my goal is to usually bring her back to my bed on that first date. Should I not do this if I want to form an emotional connection with a girl?

There is no reason to not bed a woman on the first date if you are trying to form an emotional connection.

Good sex with a ton of orgasms can absolutely help a woman develop feels for you.

qwertthrowaway · 2015-04-13T14:02:50+00:00

First off, your post is rather hard to follow for me, so excuse if I misinterpret things.

First general understanding: you are fucking and want to fuck girls. You now want a relationship?

The question I would ask is:

"Why do I want a relationship/emotional connection?" - And I mean do this in detail: Do you feel alone? Do you want children? Do you want a unicorn, that loves you, understands you, appreciates you? Do you see others around you have a relationship, and "just want one, too"(envy)? Do people(family, friends) pressure you to want one (->"he said something like 'wtf dude, that's really sad'")? Do you just want it for the novelty of it, so you can see what it's about?

If you can tell us (and yourself) your honest reasons, you will receive much better help from us (or understand better yourself what you want to do).

Apanthropos · 2015-04-13T14:21:52+00:00

It is easier to make a girl your girlfriend if you have already fucked her. She is more emotionally ( and physically) invested in you. Problem is, your need for emotional connection will kill off the attraction she has for you. For the time being, just fuck her and be cool with it. Dont bring up commitment. She will bring it for you.

After that, dont judge het by what she says, judge her by what she does. Judge her on how many sacrifices she is willing to do for you. Judge her on how much attention she needs from other guys.

Dont be depended on whether you see or not these "sparks". It could be another manipulation tactic by them so it means nothing to you.

pag_el · 2015-04-13T01:37:02+00:00

Yeah it does make you sound autistic, but you're obviously not one. However, you're probably somewhere on the autistic spectrum, but not as far as asperger. But I'm just making assumptions. Other than that, it's difficult to describe the feelings if you're inacpable of feeling them.

hobomolester · 2015-04-13T10:58:09+00:00

I've never had a girl friend in my life, let alone a girlfriend.

ok, we all need to start somewhere.

In addition to that, I'm pretty attractive (no e-brag) and that literally makes every interaction non-platonic (in my experience).

Nope. Even if you're attractive doesn't mean that all your interactions turn non-platonic. If they were, you wouldn't be coming here asking for directions.

As someone else had already mentioned, you're emotionally needy.

That's not emotional connection, chemistry, or sparks you're experiencing; it's oneitis.

You can't be hooking up with random girls because you're incapable of it. Like you said, you're 'kind of a normal guy.' Normal guys can't pull that shit off.

If you haven't read the TRP sidebar (and I doubt you've read any of it,) go read it.

Red-Zen · 2015-04-13T18:35:49+00:00

So much purple pill in here.

You should not be looking for a girlfriend. You can be open to it, but a relationship should not be your goal. Otherwise you are going to get locked into the first girl that will fart around you.

Women gate-keep sex. Men gate-keep commitment. If you go around looking to give away commitment, then you've lost all of your power and strength. And guess what; a man with no power and strength is not attractive.

Go out and have fun. Bang as many women as you want. Once you've got that down, they will be competing for your commitment. Dont give it away. Every time you do, it makes you less able to do so in the future.

Title	How do you find a girlfriend?
Author	potolot
Upvotes	6
Comments	27
Date	April 13, 2015 1:26 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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