How do you handle putdowns?

Apexk9 · 2016-05-17T00:10:42+00:00

I shoot back a witty response to make them look like an idiot.

If it's violence call their bluff. If someone threatens violence I'm ready to throw down that's not a ducking joke to me.

Sir_Distic · 2016-05-16T23:39:16+00:00

Guys? Girls? Family? Boss? Who's doing the putdowns? What's the nature of the putdowns?

Putdowns are a shit test. Agree and amplify. Redirect. Ignore. Etc. You know about shit tests because you read the sidebar, right?

DownvotesCatposts · 2016-05-17T02:10:09+00:00

As far as a physical contest is concerned, there are certain fights worth losing. Let's say the biggest, dumbest motherfucker in town is feeling socially threatened by you and wants to fight you. That might be a fight worth having because when you fight the number one physical guy in town and he wins, he's still number one - but you're immediately number two. You might lose the physical fight but win the social contest anyway.

Mr_Get_Right · 2016-05-17T11:42:29+00:00

Tl;dr: be cool. Don't fight.

Typically when you're doing good and someone "puts you down" it's because they are autistic/jealous/socially inept. If it's a friend I'll let them dangle for a moment. Let them think about what they just said. Then, spin it into a joke for them and laugh it off. Return to the status qou without getting butthurt.

If it's someone I don't feel like protecting from themselves, just calmly mental judo them. Let them over extend themselves, hit nothing, fall off the cliff of "why aren't they giving me a reaction?", then let that venom inside them burn them up.

Most important: think about what kind of mental resources fighting them will cost you. You can bring the hammer down and try to make a power play, but that's just a cry from a fragile ego. Being in control of yourself is the only thing that matters, not overt power over others. It's also an aura thing. People are less likely to try you, because calm waters run deep and it kinda spooks your typical frantic normie trying to survive in the world.

Plus, this tactic normally turns said frantic normie into an ally because they get a sense of "shelter from the storm" from you.

I would say if anyone had a genuine scale of power above yours (not your obese emotional middle management boss), they are going to be sensible and conscious enough to not be retarded/reactionary.

DevilishRogue · 2016-05-17T19:41:04+00:00

"You have to wonder about the sort of person that feels the need to put down others to make themselves feel better."

Title	How do you handle putdowns?
Author	cbr600f3
Upvotes	7
Comments	8
Date	May 16, 2016 11:33 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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