How do you move on from a previous life?

watchguy45 · 2020-02-29T04:51:30+00:00

Can you move?

Sorry bro but you’re going to need to cut the toxic people out of your life. Even if they are family.

You have 1 life to live. Your dad fucked his life up. You gonna let him fuck yours up too?

Can you move to a different country? A different state?

Start fresh -everything. You wont be reminded by the past because only the future will be in front of you.

Be proud of making the change in your life when you did. Most people are set in their ways by their mid 30s.

monky-loves-you · 2020-02-29T05:27:39+00:00

The reasons I drank and hated my life still exist and are with me daily. Mostly my family and friends. Everyone in my life is shitty and negative.

Cut them out.

How do you get away from this? Do you just drop everyone out of your life?

Yes.

What about family?

Cut them out.

How do I deal with seeing my beta alcoholic father drink himself stupid and kill himself with cigarettes?

Either try to be there for him, distance yourself from him, or just cut him out too. These people can only affect you if you let them. The question you should be asking yourself is: why are you letting them?

Or my BPD sister fuck up her sons life by being a shitty parent?

Cut them out.

Forgot to mention that my dad had to move back in with me because his marriage failed. So I get to see him fail, get drunk and eat microwave dinners all damn day. It's depressing but I cant afford to move out (yet - working on it)

You let him. If you want to change it you can - keep working on moving out until you make that happen too.

But I still get depressed as fuck sometimes when I'm around people from my "previous life". How do I deal with this shit?

Take responsibility for your choices, one of them is letting these people in to your life, probably because you feel some obligation to them. But think about would they do the same for you? You need to put some distance between yourself and them, or cut them out completely. Maybe you can't change some of this today, but you can make a plan now and start working towards it today.

DiskKiller2 · 2020-02-29T07:52:55+00:00

Don’t have one-itis for that special one job or position you write about in the comments. The world is filled with opportunities. If there’s only one that you’re truly interested in, and badly want, that shows and you won’t get it. You just experienced that.

Move to a bigger city with a lot of opportunities quickly and start applying for jobs systematically. You need many things going on simultaneously. Stay on someone’s couch or in a car if you must for a short period of time.

You need to be a man with options, also professionally and not just with women.

odysseysred · 2020-02-29T08:03:23+00:00

Burn your bridges motherfucker. Playing it safe is like a long slow torture. Start over somewhere else and if you decide to look back make sure it's after you have abundance.

Annapolis_Silence · 2020-02-29T08:21:14+00:00

Get your dad into Joe Rogan/ Jocko Willinks and start empowering him with Red Pill Philosophy. You have enough power and positivity to make a difference in other people’s lives. And know better than any therapist or self motivational guru on how to reach people when they are at a low.

slater1208 · 2020-02-29T10:27:22+00:00

Move to China you can start at $30 bucks an hour teaching English with no qualifications other than being white and being from the USA. Or other countries like Thailand or Vietnam but the salary is only like $15 an hour there. Sell everything and just go. You can easily find a job that will pay for your flight and give you a free apartment.

empatheticapathetic · 2020-02-29T11:17:45+00:00

Cutting out my family was the best thing I ever did.

Congrats on all your progress so far.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-02-29T15:25:45+00:00

1.5 years ago I decided to change. I completely quit drinking, found TRP, cleaned up my diet, started hitting the gym, lost 40lbs, put on a bunch of muscle.. I have completely changed who I am physically and mentally. You wouldn't believe it if I posted a before/after pic.

I have a ton of work to do still, but...

but nothing

youre doing a good job, dont stop

Title	How do you move on from a previous life?
Author	141_
Upvotes	17
Comments	11
Date	February 29, 2020 4:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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