How do you not pay on a date?

IRideParkCity · 2017-07-14T02:17:18+00:00

Just tell the server to split it. It's fucking easy.

Since I found trp in January I haven't bought a girl food once except valentine's day. And that night I bought a pizza and we ate it at the hotel while watching a snowboarding movie. Before the pizza I took her on a hike over looking the city. Cheap date but she loved it.

Seriously tho, the whole not spending money on them as well as only doing whatever the fuck you want and just dragging them along... That shit works.

deadwoodcylon · 2017-07-14T02:32:48+00:00

Don't do dinner dates. Do coffee/tea dates. Then you can get the bill, it's not that expensive. Only do a dinner date AFTER you've fucked her twice.

squidracer · 2017-07-14T02:12:21+00:00

Well, for one stop going on dinner dates

illbenicethistime69 · 2017-07-14T06:47:26+00:00

never meet for dinner. meet for a drink or two. say we are splitting this down the middle and put your card on the table. it's your frame

Bloody_Rayne · 2017-07-14T09:23:46+00:00

Look man, if you act manly and tough, you don't need to ask for her permission to split the bill. If she asks me why I don't pay for the bill, I usually tell her "I get out with a lot of girls. I'm not obliged to pay their bills". That puts her in her place.

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-07-14T13:41:06+00:00

I always (offer to) pay. The girl usually makes a point to say something. I then tell her she can buy us dessert or ice cream or something. She almost always agrees.

This has the added effect of moving the date forward, to a new location, where we can sit even closer, get more physical, etc etc

The only times I had a girl pay her half, was when the date went really bad... and she was pissed... lol.

mrHappyPotatoe · 2017-07-14T03:44:02+00:00

Dont go to a fucking restorant.

DadOnDabs · 2017-07-14T04:16:46+00:00

When you order your food, "it's gonna be separate checks." So she can say right then and there if she sees you as a beta bucks.

asotranq · 2017-07-14T15:25:53+00:00

Dinner on a first date isn't a great idea in my opinion. She will almost certainly have a lot more guys after her than you have girls after you, so you should stand out from the first hour of meeting. You can't really escalate things over the dinner table very well, also paying for it is a bit of an impossible situation that has no great outcome. Try doing something different, coffee and a walk would be better, or go do something you're talented at or whatever.

oldredder · 2017-07-14T15:50:55+00:00

It's probably classier, smarter, to establish off the bat it's a split / dutch date. Some girls will be pissed and not even let there be a date. The rest are more worthy of your time

Imarobot2 · 2017-07-14T17:47:37+00:00

You have a few options but all circumstantial.

You can just say let's split it when the check comes.
You can do as another user said: I'll get this you get dessert or x activity after.
You can reframe it as: I invited you out so I'll take care of it.
You can put her on the spot: do you need me to get this?

Elequence will keep the interaction in your frame.

SexySmexxy · 2017-07-15T13:15:24+00:00

Genuinely (in a joking manner) tell her that she's paying for the first one and you're paying for the next one.

Title	How do you not pay on a date?
Author	raizo87
Upvotes	5
Comments	29
Date	July 14, 2017 2:04 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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