How do you stop being angry?

Roshambo_USMC · 2015-01-09T08:41:02+00:00

isthatyoujonwayne · 2015-01-09T09:06:51+00:00

A big part of it is changing your expectations. If you go to the bar by yourself, you can control every part of the night. When you get there, how much you drink, how you act, who knows what about you, and what time you leave.

When you go with other people your night is not 100% in your control, no matter what. More so if they depend on you for a ride, or vice versa. Accept this. You could be the most charasmatic person in the world. But if they get into a fight with some random dude while you're in the pisser and the police show up, you have to wait for the police to do their shit before you can leave with your friends. Or ditch them.

If something could be in your control, and it's not, be angry at yourself. If something is beyond your control, anger does nothing.

ebolaflavoredwater · 2015-01-09T12:21:47+00:00

/r/Meditation

I'm not even kidding. It has made all the difference in the world for me.

redkick · 2015-01-09T15:59:20+00:00

Anger is not suddenly there, it's building up over the course of minutes or hours. My strategy is to detect this buildup and get rid of the cause before I can't control the anger any more.

This might also mean suddenly leaving the current place and just walking around on the streets, or playing an aggressive video game. Sometimes, I can even come back and enjoy the rest of the day/evening, because I came back with different expectations.

For your situation, don't feel pressured to play taxi for these people when they angered the person with the car. That's their problem.

davevd · 2015-01-09T09:43:35+00:00

What did they do? Must have been pretty serious to want to scream...?!??

My first thought is, what are you doing at a bar, concerning yourself with mates when you should be enjoying socialiasing and mingling with the ladies in their sweet mini skirts.

cascadecombo · 2015-01-09T12:30:05+00:00

Acceptance

PayneGreyWolf · 2015-01-09T09:53:10+00:00

I was under the impression that maintaining frame in the cautionary sense referred to the tendency of males to wane their Alpha behaviours in relationships. Screaming would have been quite excessive although I see no issue with showing some aggression when you're aggravated.

Title	How do you stop being angry?
Author	Ibex3D
Upvotes	5
Comments	13
Date	January 9, 2015 7:55 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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