How has your partner count affected your relationships

Wolfwoodd · 2016-02-12T15:54:50+00:00

No, my partner count (60ish) has had no effect on my relationships. My girlfriends never ask, and my wife has never cared about that sort of thing.

MrGoodStuff05 · 2016-02-12T13:44:07+00:00

A man and a woman are not the same. A man can fuck 100 women and still have the ability to form a bond with the 101st woman. Women cannot develop a bond with her 10th lover as strong as she did with her first or second. Sometimes it starts getting into the realm of alpha widow, but that's kind of another topic.

Also, a man with a high partner count is a man with high SMV. You will never see a fat ugly dude that's fucked 20 women, but you will find ugly fat chicks that have fucked over 20 men.

Therefore, there are no negative consequences of a man with a high partner count.

RIPelliott · 2016-02-12T14:08:01+00:00

My count is almost at 40 (38 or 39 i lost count). Been straight up honest about it and I have found about 15% of women who would otherwise smash say no based on that number. Honestly I don't give a fuck I have plenty of plates as well as an LTR right now. The only time it sucks is when I reject women based on their count (usually 10-20) and they point out my hypocrisy. As we know here, its very different for us (shows high smv for us not necessarily them, spreading our seed etc) but in real life its tough to explain this to those dumb sluts without them calling you a hypocrite. Oh well, on to the next one!

blacwidonsfw · 2016-02-12T16:15:26+00:00

0 effect except that I'm better at sex and reading the lies.

Grimardo · 2016-02-12T19:49:18+00:00

I would never ever bring this up in a relationship to begin with. I don't want to know hers, she doesn't need to know mine (80ish). There is absolutely no value in either of you knowing. In the past I have found out things about my LTR's past sexual experiences, boyfriends etc. from them in way too much detail and it didn't provide any benefit and learning the hard way, it bugged me in some cases.

In a relationship I like to think of both of her and your past experiences as contributions, lessons w.e that have helped mold you into what you are today and should be respected for the most part.

e.g. If she is quite sexual and adventurous (knows what shes doing and how to have a great orgasm), she has definitely learned these skills with someone that is not you.

e.g. If she is good at communicating, understanding compromises and being independent, she has either learned the hard way or has had experiences in other relationships that she can draw upon, improve and allow her to be understanding, open and confident.

All and all, either of you don't need to know the details. Keep it at a 50,000 foot level and respect that each of your past experiences most likely contribute to what you find attractive about each other today.

fnordsnord · 2016-02-12T17:05:08+00:00

I wouldn't know - my N is none of their business and I don't tell 'em. My wife of 25 years doesn't know my N. Neither does my girlfriend. I just don't tell 'em.

[deleted] · 2016-02-12T17:06:48+00:00

The higher your count, the better, as long as you are free of diseases and illegitimate kids obviously. You will be better in bed and also more pre-approved by other women.

The trick is to let them know you have a high n-count without making it look like you are trying to brag about it IMO.

Ladd_MaccAodh · 2016-02-13T04:31:36+00:00

I don't reveal my partner count, period. Two reasons: first, when I don't say anything, most people assume it's pretty high (this is something I only really discovered in the last year, but seems universal). Second, because I was burned bad the few times I did reveal it - though in those cases, my number was much lower, so that might not be good data.

Realize that if a woman is inquiring after your partner count, it's because she's looking for leverage. Maybe she doubts your alpha credentials and wants proof that you're a secret beta, and a number gives her the rationalization fuel she needs. Maybe she's worried you're too alpha for her to lock down and is looking for the opposite kind of rationalization fuel. Regardless, you need to take the question as seeking leverage and treat it accordingly. Instead of answering directly, pass the shit test, or pass the comfort test.

Obviously I'm assuming a relationship you want to continue in this answer, just based off the question. If she's a plate, do what you want, maybe learn something from her reaction.

red-triad · 2016-02-13T06:02:22+00:00

Male: Our SMV increases with our N-count because of increased self confidence, abundance mentality & social proof (the more chicks on your notch the more proof that we are sexually desirable).

Female: Her SMV drops the higher her N-count is because we do not look at social proof the same way as she does.

Title	How has your partner count affected your relationships
Author	Bk1997
Upvotes	5
Comments	16
Date	February 12, 2016 1:32 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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