How important is a low N Count?

a_regular · 2017-02-24T23:53:37+00:00

I stopped reading when she lied to you about her n count. Dump her, especially if it this important to you (and lying)

SkimSTi · 2017-02-24T23:54:04+00:00

look... sex is quite natural for human beings.. if its in your religious beliefs not to do it until marriage, then i will tell you to move on and find a virgin. because the thoughts are never going to leave your head about what this girl did and you will forever be resentful in the relationship. find someone new who fits your mold rather than trying to fix what cant be undone about her past.

that being said, most of the TRPers here will probably say you are crazy. shes 28 and only had 3 partners... thats pretty awesome.

edit: also - someones sexual history doesn't justify if they will be a good/bad parent. keep that in mind.

brinkleybuzz · 2017-02-25T02:55:04+00:00

Hate to break the news to you, but an attractive 28 year old woman with an N count of three or less is like a unicorn these days. Most women in this age group have N counts into the teens or more.

You have a right to your standards, but that's reality in the 2010s.

Most women will lie about their N counts if they think they are being judged. An N count of 3 isn't terrible. Her past shows that she can bond with a guy in a LTR. The question is can she bond with you. If her N count is 3, then she probably can. If it's higher, I'd be more concerned.

If you like her and want to stay with her, you probably should comfort her and tell her that you won't judge her for her past so she'll open up to you more. You want to make sure she's not trickle truthing about her past so give it some time so you can learn more about her.

In the future, remember that while you certainly have the right to use any criteria you want to determine if a woman is worthy to be with you, never her let her know or sense that you are judging her.

oldredder · 2017-02-25T09:08:18+00:00

Real adults don't harp on each other for their past partner count. Ever.

And having 3 past men at age 28 is extremely non-slutty.

Your expectations are excluding almost the entire planet.

Il128 · 2017-02-25T00:26:07+00:00

You know a huge indicator of beta behavior is mate guarding and part of that is worrying about a woman's body count.

I don't do LTR and therefore body counts are pretty meaningless to me. Men who do want LTR should know that:

1 She's going to lie about it

2 Sex, yep, everyone enjoys it and she had as much sex as she wanted to before you. Get over it.

3 For a good indicator of body cout use this formula:

She will tell you when she lost her virginity. They will not lie to a great extent about this. From the year she lost her virginity add one body for each month she was single and add one body for every six months she was in a relationship. A relationship is everything from having a FWB to marriage.

She lost her virginity at 16 and was in 3 long term relationships and wasn't single at all and is now 22. Six years in a relationship the whole time. She probably has a body count of 12 or more.

Multiplying her admitted count by 3 is silly. It's based on her lie and then multiplying. Hell, I've met 42 years who still claim 3, which is complete bullshit.

MrTyler_Durden · 2017-02-25T03:01:11+00:00

I like how you defend her by saying "she lied because she thought I would judge her!" Ohhhhhhh?? That's why she lied? No shit. That's why anyone lies. And she'll lie when she doesn't want you to judge her about fucking her co worker last weekend. If she's hot, she's fucked wayyyyy more than 6 people, I promise. She's at least in the twenty especially since she lied twice about the number she reallllllly doesn't want you finding out the actual one.

ovrsurge · 2017-02-25T05:57:45+00:00

Look up how premarital partners correlates to marriage stability.

I'd outright refuse if I couldn't reliably confirm less than 3 partners. At that point it's above 50% for a divorce

aurelius_shrugs · 2017-02-25T15:42:17+00:00

First, she's older than you. Second, never get married. Third, she's had way more than three cocks. Brazilians have an extremely promiscuous culture.

360_no_scope_upvote · 2017-02-26T07:09:55+00:00

Oh buddy you got awhile to go, you're an insecure beta and your religious beliefs are gonna lock you into a really shitty marriage because of your inexperience. You have some serious soul searching to do.

This simply isn't the right sub for you. You should look into Christian dating website.

Onto your actual question, of course n count is important especially if you're looking for LTR material, but never expect an honest answer.

Willow-girl · 2017-02-25T04:03:31+00:00

Should I run now that I have messed it up or does 3 long term partners not really matter?

Three long-term partners evidently matters TO YOU and guess what? YOU get to set whatever standards YOU want for YOUR relationship!

If you're saving yourself for marriage for religious reasons, it's probably a good idea to find a partner who is also very religious and similarly inexperienced.

Title	How important is a low N Count?
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Date	February 24, 2017 11:47 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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