How to accept your appearance?

MrAgamemnon · 2019-02-17T08:06:32+00:00

First and foremost, the thing you need to do is hit the gym. Being buff will overcome a lot of shit.

I hate my appearance and I'm embarrassed to go outside because I feel like I'm a monstrosity.

Secondly, if you want, PM me a photo and I'll tell you honestly whether or not you're a monstrosity.

9 times out of 10, it's mostly in your head. Everyone has their flaws.

look_up_there · 2019-02-17T09:19:31+00:00

Look man, that's shit. And your dad's a shit cunt too. You need to build a stronger mental barrier to the bullshit that people say. Your still young, and luckily for men, as we get older things become better and better if you look after yourself.

If you genuinely think your unfit or a monstrosity, recognise that as the problem, and attack it with a resolution. Hit the damn gym. Cardio all the negativity away and lift weights. It doesn't happen over night, but you'll see progress if your consistent.

Train the mind to be positive. It is possible to do this, I'm living proof of it, and many others are too.

Also, get away from the shit people on your life. If they add no positive value, ditch those fucks and move forward. Life's too damn short not to

evolutionmorpheus · 2019-02-17T12:32:03+00:00

Given what you've been putting up with mentally it definitely sounds like your issues with your looks are probably worse in your head than in real life.

Like the others are saying definitely get into training at your gym and eating right. Even if you'd rate your looks and physique 0/10 if you build yourself a 10/10 body you'd still be at least 5/10 overall. Then throw in good grooming and decent haircuts and clothes and you move yourself up another notch.

Eating well will also help with things like acne or body odor. Then work on confidence and attitude and you move yourself up another notch. The key is literally just sticking to this stuff, when you're depressed it's hard as fuck to get motivated to train or dress well but you just have to make it a routine. Put all your focus on just doing it at first, rather than worrying about how well it's working.

InformalCriticism · 2019-02-17T15:11:58+00:00

Build your confidence in something tangible. Sit your ass in a workout bench and lift until you can't anymore.

Obviously, do this safely. I'm not saying injure yourself, but physical strength is one of the best ways to build confidence.

If you don't want people to think of you as a troll face, draw their gaze to an impressive physique.

If your hair is shitty, shave it all off. If you have a gut look into nutrition. If you have dry skin, spend some money on skin care.

It just takes effort. Consistent effort. Develop habitual excellence in how you care for yourself and you will both look and feel better.

TL;DR: lift.

[deleted] · 2019-02-17T15:49:15+00:00

Learn to ignore other people's opinions about yourself. And learn to accept yourself as you are. It's extremely hard but worth it. Nobody is perfect, some people look like so called "10" but have crippling depression and what not. Appearance is not all there is to a person. Focus on your inner development. Do things you like by yourself, pick some hobbies, do sports you like etc.If you learn to appreciate yourself as you are, others can appreciate you too. Otherwise you can hit gym 7days a week, look like an f-ing Brad Pitt and still feel ugly when you look at the mirror.

feedthecatcomics · 2019-02-17T14:12:18+00:00

I looked like shit when I was 18. I remember counting 27 white heads on my face one morning when waking up. I started eating healthy foods like leafy green and fruits. I stopped eating so much sugar. I eat fried foods once or twice a week. My face cleared up. I started working out, and my body looked good. Now I look sexy AF... but it took a decade of commitment. Give it time bro

Sad_Sleeper · 2019-02-18T20:33:00+00:00

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=w-HYZv6HzAs

One of the videos that helped me alot. When i was strugling with self-confidence.

ArchsofArch · 2019-02-17T08:03:29+00:00

Again this doesn't apply to me. I have spend the last year traveling four countries.

Let it go bro. Let it go.

And everything in my life is sorted.

Title	How to accept your appearance?
Author	Umcode
Upvotes	6
Comments	13
Date	February 17, 2019 7:57 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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