How to avoid oneitis?

TRPdating · 2016-10-31T16:56:15+00:00

The only solution to ONEitis is not to have ONE.

You will immediately understand what I mean once you are speaking to / dating / texting more than one girl at the same time.

Willkuer_ · 2016-10-31T17:31:38+00:00

Another approach is very strict stoicism. Hard to get there within a short time. Spinning plates is faster.

fnordsnord · 2016-10-31T23:20:18+00:00

Sounds like you are prone both to quick attachment and deep pair bonding.

Working from three sentences, I'd say you lack abundance mentality and may have confidence issues. You want to lock down one that "completes you."

If I were you I'd take a year off and work on myself. Lift, and CRUSH IT at work/school, and not worry about dating or the bang.

But you're wildly unlikely to listen to that, so instead I'll just tell you to never date the same woman two times in a row.

Make it a rule to as a different girl out after each one. I'd advise rotating among, like FIVE if you can manage it. And in-between each date, open at least ONE new one. You don't have to N-close, but at least open one.

Stoiky · 2016-10-31T21:48:09+00:00

Oneitis is when you found someone and think you can't get better. Oneitis is deeply corretaleted with low self-esteem.

Title	How to avoid oneitis?
Author	Ziopsis
Upvotes	2
Comments	5
Date	October 31, 2016 4:55 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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