How to justify lost time

SkorchZang · 2016-10-30T19:22:36+00:00

Above all, NEVER talk about it. You'll be tempted to justify this and that, never do it. Makes you look like a bitch, trying to explain yourself.

The bottom line is that the self-justification vibe looks far worse on man than a whole lifetime wasted and 0-fucks given, 0 excuses for anything made.

Those feelings you're having are not really yours, they're a byproduct of the culture we're in. The culture promotes "The Feel Of Missing Out" heavily, because that's the spur they use "subtly" to make you consume more shit, doing your small part in greasing the financial gears of the system like a good little beta. They have basically invented all those scenarios people call my twenties, my thirties, my college years, etc. None of it is a real thing anywhere else in the world, only in the media-riddled minds of the afflicted.

A natural man in a more natural environment does not have those feelings. He just doesn't. There's nothing he feels entitled to and so there's nothing for him to "miss out on". Life unfolds, he is there in the middle of it always. What does that even mean, "missing out" on something?

Think about it. Every day of those 5 years you feel are wasted, you woke up, took a nice piss, maybe had breakfast. Whatever you were doing that day, you did it. You were right there in the middle of it the whole time, didn't miss a single second... The insidious thing about that "feel of missing out" is that it gives you all the unicorn fairyland scenarios that you think are supposed to happen to you, like your life is a book with defined chapters in it, and you're constantly afraid you'll miss the exciting part of the story, since it seems so fucking boring at the moment all you have to do is look forward to when all this scenario shit is supposed to start happening to you. It doesn't, it's all a lie and basically, it's just a fucking commercial.

ifindshitt · 2016-10-30T18:22:16+00:00

Lift harder, work harder, and don't waste any time. Use your lost time as motivation to get shit done.

zboo1h · 2016-10-30T18:27:43+00:00

Start talking to people, everywhere. Laugh in their face if they don't respond to whatever inane thing you said. You are the prize, act like it. If you're not swole, get swole. If you're swole, get swoler.

Your mindset about lost time will never leave you. I still have it at the age of 30 after an unsuccessful time as a horny teenager. It makes me feel like a loser if I don't fuck a new bitch every week. It makes me want to spiral down back into masturbation and drugs and a "why bother" attitude if I don't get a text back from the hottie that I persuaded to suck my dick the other night. It WILL fuck with your head. You WILL learn to fucking cope. And you WILL become Chad.

COLIE53 · 2016-10-30T19:12:04+00:00

You cannot change your past, you can only learn from it. It's unwise to bring unnecessary stress about your future because it has not happend yet and you cannot control what hasnt happend.

Its most beneficial to live in the now. As we all have experienced, we live in an eternal present. Right here right now is the only controlling factor you can change. Invest everything into right here right now and stop worrying about what you cant control.

So remember to be here now.....

LordThunderbolt · 2016-10-30T23:15:23+00:00

Be happy you're not married.

Plan_of_Action · 2016-10-31T00:45:04+00:00

Time is an illusion. Your memories are inaccurate and mostly fantasy. Let go and move on. Remember that all you ever had or ever will have is the current moment... And worrying or focusing on the past only clouds the beauty and fullness of the one moment you have, that one stream of consciousness that sifts through your fingers like sand.

You're OK for having lived through shitty circumstances, but think about what the future more mature version of you would say if he heard you beating yourself up. He'd probably tell you to relax. He'd tell you that what you're doing now is the same as wasting those other years in the first place. He'd tell you to relax because you can't change it and that those circumstances helped shape you and put that fire in your heart in the first place. Most importantly he'd tell you that whatever you do, as long as you're trying and kicking ass and enjoying your life in the process and being authentic there's no harm done.

We all struggle, fuck up, get caught up in worry and doubt, but the only way to recover is to let go. Don't carry that weight through your life. Just live from this point on. Also realize that that projection you created of a future you, the 'mature you'... That's just you in a different mental state. You already have the answers and there's so much more power and strength inside you if you just stop pretending you're weak.

Title	How to justify lost time
Author	empatheticapathetic
Upvotes	4
Comments	8
Date	October 30, 2016 6:20 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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