How to proceed?

lietruth · 2020-04-08T20:37:32+00:00

This is a tough one.

So the thing is, she kept being flakey with you about timings (typical women behaviour — nbd) but then you ended up actually looking flakey because you bailed on her and fell into her frame.

I dunno. I disagree with the whole facetime date, but she set it up so she's probably trying to screen you for attraction. But the thing is, there's no attraction in that... unless you're chad — there's just orbiting. Especially if it turns into texting/video calling every other day.

The part about you feeling like you're "not much of a priority to her" is kinda weird. Like this is some rando off of hinge, of course she's going to have low investment, you should as well. Right now she should be low on your priority list.

If I was in this same situation, and I agreed to the facetime date, then I would've just not responded to her flake/ booty-burn humble brag text and held off for 20 mins til she hit me up.

If you still feel like you're interested in this girl... then just shoot her a text today: hey girl, you, me, facetime at 6? This shows abundance I think. Shows you were not shook by cancelling, and you're willing to move on from it.

After she replies to you, you could make some mention right before the call that you're just finishing up your bootyburn class. lol.

____Weabooo_V2 · 2020-04-08T21:10:48+00:00

Congrats dude you are her orbiter. Go read the sidebar next time. She’s clearly not a fuck yes about you, next her and use this quarantine period to go monk mode and improve yourself, instead of chasing pussy.

AnonymousSportsExec · 2020-04-08T23:02:08+00:00

1) why would you do a FaceTime date. Never hang out with a woman you are/want to fuck unless you're in a position to fuck her.

2) successful people have to change times because they are busy. In her case she values her fitness.

3) she was trying to be sexy by mentioning she's doing a booty burning work out. Then you cancelled the date.

I face this situation all the time when I hang out with women.

FWB "I'm running late, I'm wanna look extra sexy for you."

Me "Good girl" not "omgggg date cancelled because I'm a insecure pussy"

Then I proceed to get some work done while shes getting ready. Your problem is that you valued your FaceTime hang out way too much. You were literally waiting around to FaceTime like a dog waits for his owner to get home. You should be busier man.

redditthrowaway1478 · 2020-04-08T20:37:26+00:00

If she wanted to see you she would've. She didn't. Her passive reaction to your date deferral speaks volumes.

DrewChambersDC · 2020-04-09T03:50:47+00:00

Your line of questioning is dumb.

Here's a pro tip: if you ever have to ask yourself whether or not something "worked" it's a sign that you're either not being true to yourself, or you're overanalyzing the situation. If you want to talk to her on Skype then talk to her on Skype, if you don't then don't. Stop being so insecure and just do whatever you want to do and be confident that you can handle whatever situation she responds with.

Title	How to proceed?
Author	redditthrowaway1478
Upvotes	1
Comments	7
Date	April 8, 2020 8:04 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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