Seeking a bit of technical advice here on how to win/bring a girl into YOUR frame where there’s a battle of frames.

For background, I have no issue with meeting/sleeping with girls but one particular plate just won’t submit to my frame. I’ve slept with her a dozen times, know her fairly well and keep communication to the minimum. Often she’ll reach out to me then ignore me over text only later to finally meet up and sleep with me.

When I break down our interactions i’m definitely more invested, however I make a point not to chase hence why we only bang occasionally.

I have other girls in rotation and have demoted her in terms of priority however I’m interested in how you/others win the frame battle?

I suspect it’s a combination of a few things:

  1. She naturally has strong frame/high standards and bats lots of guys away. Her dating life is kind of awkward.

  2. I’m more invested and this is sub-communicated, not so much by the content of my messages or respond time but by my willingness to arrange a date.

  3. I knew her in a platonic social capacity for a long time before seducing her so the plating process was slightly different.

If her frame won’t soften is it a case of firming mine? Tactically how does one go about this? Everytime I soft next she eventually comes back.

My preference is not to hard next as this is good learnings but it’s something i’d consider if she pushed my boundaries.