I can’t finish

pete_1488 · 2019-04-08T05:45:02+00:00

Performance anxiety. As soon as you notice you're not hard you get in your head and make it worse. It's a vicious cycle. It's all about relaxing, getting out of your head and increasing your Immersion. You're here to have a good time, no pressure. Practice meditation, read about tantric sex and read "The sex god method".

RedAgeist · 2019-04-08T04:37:43+00:00

You have a mental block. You're preoccupied with something, thinking too much in my opinion.

Is it that you can't even start? Or you go limp during?

I've been there, my reasons were I wasn't attracted, she was barely worth my time but I was horny.

She pissed me off earlier and my mind was resentful towards her and had trouble being turned on by her.

Worried about performance, performance anxiety.

You like this chick and are thinking too much, creating a self fulfilling prophecy.

Work on thinking less, the pressure you feel is limiting your ability to become and stay aroused.

Start positive self talk, hype yourself up and dont worry about her so much

thatbadrogue2 · 2019-04-08T05:45:32+00:00

see a doctor tbh, viagra will solve that shit immediately. Not good to be reliant on an erection stimulant but maybe after some good pussy time, your problem will resolve itself.

mrmaldoror · 2019-04-08T04:29:45+00:00

Lay on your back, close your eyes, tell her to stick it in her mouth and try her best.

rockyp32 · 2019-04-08T07:05:47+00:00

Get on no fap and no porn

actualimprovement145 · 2019-04-08T13:37:30+00:00

Mental block and/or due to too much fapping/porn. I couldn't finish because of too much masturbating and porn, 1-2 months into stopping both I never had problems anymore again. The mental block kind of came and added to it because I was overthinking sex, thus not enjoying worrying that I wouldn't cum so it only made it worse.

BIitheFooI · 2019-04-08T20:03:09+00:00

I’ve had this problem before when I had a dry spell after I got a divorce. I wasn’t jerking it excessively but got used to porn. I’d recommend staying away from porn and masturbation if you can help it.

What ended up helping me get in the mood was watching my partner do everything to me. So when she’d be giving me a BJ, I’d look down at her doing it. When having intercourse, I’d focus on my member going in and out of her. Took awhile to rewire my brain even though I’m spinning plates now. This happened with 2 of them. As I became more comfortable with spinning plates and having sex more often, this disappeared.

I was low key worried about losing plates too, but just make sure she gets her nut if your body just isn’t up for it. Use your finger, mouth, or both and make sure she cums whenever you guys try. Keeps them loyal, and makes you stand out from other men she’s had or plates she may be currently spinning.

Title	I can’t finish
Author	TuhTodayJr
Upvotes	2
Comments	24
Date	April 8, 2019 4:24 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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