I feel I'm missing out

BadCopWithDonut · 2015-03-28T10:58:53+00:00

"She feels like my rock"

Dude seriously?...

This should be the other way around.

I don't know you personally but it looks like you really just want to stay in your comfort zone and you are too afraid of the possibility to be alone at one point.

If your relationship is all sunshine and rainbows that's awesome. But I have the strange feeling that you are miles away from being a man and at one point your girlfriend will realize this when she has an alpha cock for the first time.

fnordsnord · 2015-03-28T12:32:54+00:00

So, what you're saying is that you're in love with an attractive, intelligent girl who's faithful and takes care of your needs and is good in the sack.

And you're thinking about blowing it up because you're BORED?

Most of the guys who post here would give their left nut to be sitting where you are right now.

Oh - you're missing out. You're missing out on rejection, mind games, and dry spells so long your balls get so blue that Adobe will ask to license the pan tone.

facepalm

Never mind that. I'm assuming you're the same age. Your GF is at the PEAK of her SMV RIGHT NOW. If she wants a husband and a father for her children, she needs to be out hunting for one RIGHT NOW. Keeping her around because you get along so well and the sex is both good and convenient is an act of cruelty.

Never mind that. This is about you, not her.

Okay - here's the thing about being a player. I'm nowhere near the best. For a guy my age (and I'm old), my N-count is embarrassingly small compared to the master plate-spinners on here. I came to TRP late in life. But I have been around the block a few times. And I don't deny that there's a stomach-dropping adrenaline surge the first few times you bag a new one. It affirms your masculinity, your Game, and you feel more worthy as a person. (Maybe you shouldn't, but you do.)

However, the first tenet of The Red Pill as applied to dating is that: Women are fungible. That is, one woman is much like another. And I can tell you that that especially applies after the lights are off. Yeah - sure, some pussies are tighter than others, and some women lubricate more or less, and some are more or less enthusiastic, but in the main - chasing strange pussy just to get the strange doesn't provide enough novelty by itself to be worth the chase. If she'd dumped you yesterday and you'd come to us with a shattered ego asking 'how can I get her back,' I'd be telling you to move on and find another one for the same reason I'm telling you now to consider carefully blowing up a perfectly good thing because you're curious.

Now - you describe "My ideal situation with my girlfriend would be to be life partners, but to allow sexual and even romantic escapades to take place. " There are people who live that way. Check out /r/polyamory. But before you get too carried away - very few women are willing to adapt to such a lifestyle. Women want to pair-bond. You can try to move your relationship in that direction, but be prepared for it to blow up in your face.

kingofpoplives · 2015-03-28T14:10:04+00:00

I don't think monogamy is right for me.

HA! Biologically it's not right for anyone. Long term monogamy is a socially imposed sacrifice of a man and a woman's natural sexual impulses in return for the civilizational benefit of raising children in a stable environment.

Feeling sexually deprived doesn't mean "monogamy isn't right for you" -- sexual deprivation is a fundamental aspect of monogamy.

If I was given the choice between never having another woman and being with her or having a million women and never having my girlfriend, I would choose option 1 (only having my girlfriend) because she has done so much for me and she feels like my rock, if that makes sense.

So there you have it. Accept the "feeling of missing out" and keep your girlfriend. You can't have both -- unless you're willing and able to discreetly cheat. Then you sort of can.

I know if I asked to open the relationship that she would be incredibly upset.

An open relationship would almost certainly destroy your relationship.

lemoncakesaregross · 2015-03-28T15:29:56+00:00

Follow your heart dude. You may have the "perfect" relationship, but if youre unhappy you should leave.

Life's too short to be bored

minoc_uo · 2015-03-28T15:43:07+00:00

i was with a girl from 18-28. She was my 2nd, i was her first. I struggled with the same problem you are having. I broke if off a year ago, there were some other factors involved too. I still dont know if i made the right decision. I can tell you that now i tend to gravitate towards girls similiar to her and have accidently called them by her name. I did get tired of sex in the relationship (10 years) and sometimes i enjoy the new pussy so much its scary. Yet, there are times i think about her during it.

Title	I feel I'm missing out
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Comments	10
Date	March 28, 2015 10:38 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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