So many questions on here come from people just needing to be sure. They know the answer but it's hard to admit to it, be it a failure of our own or circumstances that we don't want to believe.

So here I go, doing exactly that. I need reassurance or opinions on a roughly two month situation that has seemingly gone away.

Light info on girl: Mid 20's, job, roommate living, not all that exceptional in any form, run of the mill but cute.

Reconnected on snapchat after two years after initial tinder match lol (never went on a date or even had a big convo, this winter came and I saw her story, it reminded me of how good she looked, I swung for the fences, ended up getting invited over after a week and a half of light and random convos)

Had three meetups. Made out first time, never got past that the next two times. Mid March she went to parents house two hours away, but then the quarantine shit happened in my state so she has been away from her home and working remotely from there since then. She also doesn't have transportation so she is pretty much stuck there during this time. I was in the area one day and visited and met parents. She seemed to like that.

Fast forwarding to last week. Snapchats got less involved, less investment, overall interest diminished. I reflected that, didn't get mad or call attention to it. Just mirrored her actions. She left me on "opened", i did the same but in a stagnant way as to not come across like anything other than busy a day later.

So we miss our first day of contact, streak ends, and then she sends a birthday snap with a blank screen picture and no text. Low effort. But I reply in the morning as to not be playing a "tit for tat" game of who can ignore harder. She never replied to my snap, not surprising and I wasn't really expecting her to.

SO.

Main question is finally here. I have kept "frame" during this two months quite well, i think. She has shit tested little things like style and personal hobbies, etc. I always brush it off or laugh at it and reinforce how much I love those things about myself. She hasn't got under my skin and I haven't got mad at her. About two weeks ago she brought up dating, asked my body count one night on the phone (I didn't answer that), and also asked about my plans for kids, etc a couple days after that. It was way too early for any of those so I just playfully mentioned how we can figure that out at a later date.

I have remained dedicated to not asking women shit about how or why. Why she went cold, what happened, etc. I know it shows weakness and neediness. She prefers to chase anyway. So at this point I don't know if she is going to come back around after she gets sick of the guy who she subverted me with, or if perhaps she is testing me in the interim to see if I'll put more effort in. But I have decided to not be the person to reach out.

Thoughts on how I am employing my frame and what I may be doing incorrectly? We have been in constant contact but with several hours of gap somedays, and not much for drawn out convos where I'm trying too hard. I'm not trying to "save" this because I can't control her, but I'd like to know if I'm maximizing my potential value and showing the right things to women when they get hot and cold.

Thanks!

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