I'm in Narcotics Anonymous, a recovery program from drug abuse. I feel it necessary to share (some/all) components of TRP with my sponsor. Can I get some help on this often suggested against topic?

homeliss · 2015-11-07T09:45:26+00:00

How about doing what you've always done, and just only discussing it's effects on your life?

There will be a disconnect if you start trying to "teach" him the philosophy, or trying to convert him, so don't do that.

Instead, just do what you've always done.

Share what changes are happening in your life, what connections you've made to past experiences, your plans for the future, things you've tried that worked such as dread, or just your analysis that day of an interaction you had with a woman.

I'm only guessing, but I'm sure there have been clear differences between how women and men have helped you with your addictions, as well as direct connections between your substance abuse and women.

And I'm sure you've developed new plans for your future since learning about TRP; such as how you want to interact with women, what relationships you want to have, how you want to hold yourself, etc. Share your progress on those goals with him.

There's no rule against sharing TRP with anyone, only a strong warning that it can erode your relationships. So use care and your own judgement. Start slow.

Good luck.

Edit: Grammar

stickfiguresk · 2015-11-07T11:20:50+00:00

Don't compromise your relationship with your sponsor. The program comes first, because you are powerless over your addiction. Commit to it however you feel you need to, but commit 100% to it regardless--even if they shit on TRP. You need this program. Get through the program. You are powerless over your addiction. You've hit rock bottom.

Now that I've beaten the shit out of that dead horse... for that writing prompt, there is a middle ground in TRP that is extremely fair to both sexes. Find that line and ride it. Example: we don't force anything on women; everything we try to control is how much we offer to women, but we absolutely are offensively skeptical to what we're offered. In the end, your program and TRP want the same thing: for you to be a self-sufficient man that is as happy and healthy as possible.

If you're still turning off your sponsor, next him for a better sponsor. Good luck, man. And don't give up with the program.

Oh, also, take the blame for instances where you shouldn't of let yourself be in a relationship with an obvious hoe. If it's the 3rd time she's(probably) cheated on you, it's the 2nd time it's your fault for letting it happen to you. Much of TRP is focused on personal accountability. And if you bought a woman anything when you really shouldn't of, or if you were a time ho... etc.

RPmatrix · 2015-11-07T12:21:15+00:00

what stickfigure says, and I want to add something

The 4th step and 5th steps, which I guess you are doing, are about being honest with yourself and you know how NA is filled with sayings? Here's another one: "a problem shared is a problem halved", and sharing your shit with your sponsor does this and make you own your own shit, admit it and let it go, which is the ultimate goal, to pass this phase in your life and move on.

Many drug users have shied away from their feelings and the reality of their lives, and these steps are part of reintroducing you back to being a person who acknowledges and takes responsibility for themselves and their lives like TRP also suggests you Do. (where possible, as the following steps say, e.g.don't dob yourself into the cops for shit you got away with when it comes to 'admitting our mistakes' etc) NA helps you find your way back, I know, I got lost once and it was NA that helped me find my way back.

In fact it taught me about many things in life in general, and after a year I had become a 'straight me' and I really enjoyed it. shit, that was over 20yrs ago! I think everybody should do a 12 step program for at least 5 days a week for 3 mths, it's unique and the only way I've seen people successfully stay stopped from using hard drugs. And much like TRP it becomes a lifestyle in itself, which lasts the rest of your life.

Of course tell your sponsor about TRP, you think they're going to judge you on your 5th step? Na bro, they're just there to let you have someone to tell, and it's all good coz one day somebody's going to tell you a 5th, and you'll understand, and it's all good.

Welcome to TRP bro, and pm me if you wanna talk some 'fellowship' shit! I'm more than happy to support a fellow fellow! :D

jkonrad · 2015-11-07T12:39:18+00:00

Is it normal for a sponsor in this scenario to have such intimate knowledge of your life? Seems excessive.

RPFreebase · 2015-11-08T00:01:31+00:00

There's no need to bring up trp terminology, but of course you should tell the truth. I've found much of this stuff to be very compatible w the work I've done (I'm in the other fellowship). Being the best version of you, being accountable to your own sense of morality, taking responsibility for your own life and realizing no one else is going to do this shit for you.

If your sponsor reacts harshly to you telling him your truth then you need a new sponsor. But I can tell you as someone who has been on that side of stuff I've heard a lot more crazy shit from sponsees then trp, and I didn't judge them for it. I was pretty crazy myself in the early days. I think you'll be fine, just remember that you're in this to get free and in order to get free you need to get honest.

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