I'm Not Ready for a Relationship Test

MrBowlfish · 2019-12-21T21:54:02+00:00

You’re laying it on too thick with this girl. Too many words from you in these texts. Less explaining, more logistics for setting up the date.

latinmax68 · 2019-12-21T21:47:46+00:00

Not sure. Conversation seems a little too boring. You almost put ME to sleep with that heritage crap.

Also, you sounded too butthurt and serious. Why do you care what she says?

Definitely don’t think you can come back from this, but that’s just my opinion. A more seasoned veteran may give you a different one

second-last-mohican · 2019-12-21T21:52:14+00:00

You sound boring.. talking about your families heritage etc. Her pussy dried right up as you came across like you want to get married, hence her having to state I'm not emotionally available. You should have kept the message size right down, be a bit more vague and getting her engaged rather than your long word vomit. And then you calling her out for looking for casual fun.?!?!

HumbleTrees · 2019-12-21T21:49:22+00:00

You're in her frame now. "I'll be available when you decide you want to see me"...

Sounds like she just didn't fancy u enough, and was giving you the easy way out.

Not really sure why this is a question but if we need to cover fundamentals, then okay pal.

When she said she snot ready for a relationship, you could have just said "who said anything about a relationship?" And simply create sexual tension by staring at her with fuck eyes. If it doesn't work, so be it. Onto the next.

Prov96 · 2019-12-21T22:02:03+00:00

Conversation was way too boring.

Texting should mostly be for logistics, not for long convos about heritage.

"Damn, I ad the best first date in mind too. Now you're never going to experience it. Oh well. 🤷"

This comes off as a bit butthurt.

Don't worry about it and just move on.. no need to keep replying..

vullnet123 · 2019-12-21T22:14:41+00:00

You're talking to her like a girlfriend dude, don't talk to your girls like they're your diary.

Gunny123 · 2019-12-22T00:14:55+00:00

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Tousen71 · 2019-12-22T04:28:42+00:00

You’re talking too much.

You’re trying too hard to impress her.

You’re trying to get to know her through text.

You’re not reading her mood via text (vital because you need to match it).

Learn how to quickly shift conversation to a meet up IF she is receptive.

It’s okay to shoot the shit for a bit and make her laugh (if you’re funny) but try to avoid the open-ended get to know you shit.

Example:

“Hey, good luck on your exams and have a good week. I’ll touch base in a few days to set something up for this weekend.”

Boom.

That’s it.

Girls THINK they want to talk through text (they’re just bored) but unless you’re talking about fucking or asking them to send nudes, it’s never exciting to talk over text. Tone is hard to read and the cadence (when she texts you back) is all over the place depending on her schedule.

Unless y’all are cool like that, I wouldn’t even send jokes/memes.

Keep it strictly to business. Don’t take anything serious. Make jokes when you can. Tease.

“You’ve got the aura of a stone cold freak. Am I right or wrong?”

Shit like that.

If they’re cool and fun, she’ll laugh and play along. If she gets serious, drop her. Not worth the effort to warm up a cold bitch if she doesn’t “get you.”

BigDickEnergy123 · 2019-12-21T22:01:32+00:00

Great job at talking about yourself the entire time, then the one question you do ask her you stop replying immediately after her answer.

Regardless, who gives a fuck? Your recovery is literally waiting. It looks like it's already resolved. I don't see why you said "when you're available", though. That was the only fuck up.

mrmaika10 · 2019-12-21T22:48:52+00:00

Since you’re a beginner, read the sidebar. I know everyone says it but it’s really necessary. None of these texts should’ve happened. First text after getting her number should’ve been “hey it’s [you’re name here] from [wherever you met]. I’m doing [insert activity here] later. You should come.” Or if you’re already acquainted with her just leave out the first line.

As soon as you have her agreeing to a date and time it’s already over. You’ve already won. Now all you have to do is escalate through look and touch. Read more stuff from trp to find out how to game women more easily. Best of luck

SalomonG18 · 2019-12-22T00:39:06+00:00

You're boring man

Johnny_Monsanto · 2019-12-22T01:56:45+00:00

That was pretty cringeworthy. If I have learned something from TRP is to keep texting to logistics only and it sure does work. Keep the long conversations for the actual date.

TiredandConfused420 · 2019-12-22T01:50:04+00:00

Dude she literally rejected u and made it crystal clear that she doesn’t wanna date (you).

Move on

theUnBannableHulk · 2019-12-22T11:45:49+00:00

Practical advice

“Whoa there. Hold your horses, who said I was romantically interested? 🤔 I’m just being cool because I thought you were chill”

Cue hamster explosion

Title	I'm Not Ready for a Relationship Test
Author	Gunny123
Upvotes	4
Comments	47
Date	December 21, 2019 9:42 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/asktrp/comments/edvsnw/im_not_ready_for_a_relationship_test/
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