"I'm not really looking for anything right now"

fnordsnord · 2018-02-15T22:26:16+00:00

Next.

Small pecks and "not really looking for anything" is her trying to reject you politely. You have failed to achieve attraction.

Radio silence and move on to the next one.

redhawkes · 2018-02-15T21:44:28+00:00

You probably demonstrated bf material behavior, hence the answer. She only wants to fuck.

You didn't escalate, so you know why she's not interested.

CutLiver · 2018-02-15T21:41:31+00:00

"Ok. Give me a call if you change your mind"

throwawaytrp0000 · 2018-02-16T00:25:34+00:00

That's girl speak for "im not really looking for anything ~~right now~~ with you"

3x8-12 · 2018-02-15T22:00:01+00:00

In the future, don't end with a small peck. You gotta go for what you want and show her that you desire her, physically. Especially so on a first date. Ending it with a peck makes you look like a pussy to her.

htbf · 2018-02-15T23:44:01+00:00

Just answer "Perfect. Meet me at X by Y."

walawalawa · 2018-02-16T01:32:02+00:00

"not really looking for anything right now"

You: Cool, drinks tonight.

If she makes this some sort of Friendzone thing...proceed as I suggest below.

A plate I was banging dropped off because she wanted me as some sort of bf.

She still texts all the time. Occasionally I'll hit her up and she'll say "I have a bf". Me: Good, he can make us breakfast---or just ignore.

The other day she wished me a Happy Valentine's Day.

Me: "let's celebrate, come over..."

After that she tells me she has a bf and if she comes over it won't be for sex.

I simply replied:

"I'm a man you're a woman, I see you as a woman not a friend. If you're not interested in that I understand. Good luck."

Hamstering ensues: "Why can't you love me?"

Me: I'm a free spirit, this is the most I can offer.

She went silent---for the moment. She's hamstring.

If you want to bang a girl...bang her. If you want a more steady thing--make that clear.

The point is to lead the interaction. Girls will make clear what they want. I've had plates suddenly get bf's and disappear and that's ok.

RedLegendx · 2018-02-16T01:49:59+00:00

“Not looking for anything RIGHT NOW”

Her attraction is not that very high for you, but if you can game properly you’ll be able to get laid.

VengefullyY0urs · 2018-02-16T22:51:15+00:00

I would next.

When you get lines like this, apply the Brad Pitt rule and it will be very clear what the situation exactly is.

If girls wants to fuck or is interested in you, they will never give you a line like this.

This one seems to be “not looking for anything right now (with you)”.

Gaming her actively at this point is a waste of time. You would have more affect nexting, working on yourself and trying to meet other girls.

I am seeing text suggestions like “no worries”, and “k”, and “lemme know if you change you mind”...

All those either sound butthurt, sad, and or in her frame.

Saying nothing would be the best response. It takes no effort (which you shouldn’t spend on someone who isn’t interested), and it will create at Little a little tension as you don’t give the situation closure (people are validated by closure).

Edi-22 · 2018-02-15T21:49:13+00:00

"Ok, shoot a text if you change your mind." And then go NoContact and go for other girls

Title	"I'm not really looking for anything right now"
Author	redpill6991
Upvotes	3
Comments	22
Date	February 15, 2018 9:39 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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