Is being happy really a beta trait?

oldredder · 2014-11-25T13:00:46+00:00

No: I've seen no such talk.

Being happy serving others is a beta trait.

Being happy taking from life what you want first is an alpha trait.

[deleted] · 2014-11-25T07:16:28+00:00

lol, it is fine to laugh and have fun. Just don't do it like a giggling school way. Don't appear to be a clown/fool.

mister_barfly75 · 2014-11-25T09:02:26+00:00

Laughing's fine, smiling's fine, and you should be happy because you're doing what you enjoy doing. Just don't overdo it and make everyone think you're a joke who never takes anything seriously

LambdaMale · 2014-11-25T11:03:20+00:00

There are two different things you mention: 'making people laugh' and 'being happy'/'enjoying yourself'. You should always try to be happy and there is nothing wrong with showing it on occasion, but trying to make people laugh or trying to make them happy, i.e. catering to their needs, that is the trap you have to avoid.

MrEiffel · 2014-11-25T11:56:12+00:00

It's not what you are doing, but the why.

If you're laughing, joking around and being the center of the party simply because you feel like it => Alpha.

If you're laughing to hide the frustration inside, joking to obscure the nervousness and smiling like a retard because you need a mask => Beta

tombreck2 · 2014-11-25T17:35:34+00:00

There's a difference between being happy and being content with things

intelcorei5 · 2014-11-28T01:22:28+00:00

"being happy, smiling, making people laugh" are qualities we adore in women (Remember your mother telling you how to make people like you, when you were a child? That's how she makes people like her.).

It's not "beta", it's just not something we admire in fellow men.

Title	Is being happy really a beta trait?
Author	BP_Phaggot
Upvotes	0
Comments	12
Date	November 25, 2014 7:12 AM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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