Is it true that you will get lonely when your older?

comcain · 2020-11-29T00:12:14+00:00

I'm in my sixties, retired, and I'm happy with being divorced. I want nothing to do with my ex, and haven't spoken to her in a couple decades. She was a bitch.

I stay in touch with my kids and their paths through life, and love them dearly. I check in with them weekly and offer support.

I suppose it's "selfish", but I can do what I want. Read a book? No problem. Watch a movie? No sweat. Go workout? Hop in the car and go.

I'm not barraged by continual demands on my time, the need to compromise on fucking everything. I have the great luxury of being able to sleep in if I want!

I suppose I'm an introvert. Myers-Briggs says that means I recharge by being alone, reading books, etc. But if I were more extroverted, I could still go out and see people when I wanted, not when she demanded.

The other day I ordered up a Raspberry PI computer from Amazon. Quite remarkable, really. The size of a pack of playing cards. Plug in power, monitor, keyboard, and mouse, and you have a fine Linux machine. But to clear space for it, I didn't have to negotiate with someone to clear away her beads or knitting.

To answer your question directly, I don't feel lonely. I'm at peace with myself.

Cheers

EDIT: Thanks so much for the award! It's the first one I ever received!!

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-11-29T07:04:32+00:00

53 checking in. I am sometimes alone, but I'm never lonely, because I am completely comfortable in my own skin. I keep a roster, so I have access to sex. After 30 or 35, the script flips and the guys have the power.

You wanna know who is lonely? Guys trapped in loveless dead bedroom marriages who gave up on their dreams and work in jobs they hate so a woman who doesn't love them can spend their money. Maybe the kids are ok, maybe not. That's a coin toss.

The other big group of lonely ass people are post-Wall^SPLAT! bitches who waited too long or dumped their loyal sap hubby to go have themselves some Eat! Pray! SLUT!^TM adventures. See also The Wild ~~Oats~~ Ho Project.

Look, if you're afraid to be alone and want to wife up some tatted up shoggoth bar slut, then be my guest. But if you play your cards right you won't want to or need to.

Further Reading:

End Game or Handling Life on Your Own Terms

-Take a Deep Breath and Make it Count.

531erryday · 2020-11-29T05:41:08+00:00

Call me non red pilled. Etc.

But there's a fundamental truth of human life.

The highest point of pleasure and bliss possible is only attained through oneself, and is a solo experience. You enter this earth alone, and will leave it alone.

The magnitude of bliss and satisfaction one can experience on their own, towards life, is larger and more vast by a factor of 10¹⁰⁰ compared to what the manifested and material world will bring you.

The reality is, is that 0.1% of the population will get to experience this. And only a slightly larger percent will actively be trying to.

If you rest your life satisfaction on the validation and flesh of another human, you are bound to end up miserable. This train is set to derail.

None of it will meet your expectations, because even if you had full control, you wouldn't know how to meet your expectations.

Life is beautiful when you don't know what's coming. And let me remind you, a constant pursuit of pleasure always ends up being a pursuit of pain.

You may be lonely, you may be depressed. So what. There's no way that this situation "ought" to be going.

There's nothing you can do now that will guarantee your future satisfaction in any regard.

My end message is this; though I sound like I'm saying fuck it, life is miserable, deal with it etc. It can't be further from the truth.

Learn to love unconditionally, learn to love without a subject of that love. Learn to be happy without a reason, and learn to be content without any effort.

These things are easier said than done.

Step one is to meditate, Step two is to meditate, but stop thinking it'll make you better at anything

Step three is to fully understand step two, and accept that it is true, but then realize that meditation with no end goal is a pre-cursor to the perpetually blissful state.

You don't dance to reach a certain point on the dance floor. You don't sing to finish the song. You don't live life just to die as fast as possible. You don't meditate for any purpose, and that is what will bring you eternal happiness.

Good luck

Musicgoon · 2020-11-29T00:54:51+00:00

Are you going to be an old man living in the woods or will you have a social life?

Cool-Blacksmith4030 · 2020-11-29T12:06:00+00:00

I think it’s time for a social switch.

I would love us to move more towards living in groups rather then the nuclear family marketed idea of how we should live.

I’m far far FAR happy living in my own house in the same suburb as my family and friends.

Only wish we all lived in the same cul-de-sac and had joint gardens.

We are meant to live in groups not with a partner who we have to spoil in order to feel needed and complete.

kclanton80 · 2020-11-30T02:11:45+00:00

You could be lonely..... But you could also have a partner and be totally freaking miserable. don't pursue having a partner unless you find the person that's worthy of being one.

xxx69harambe69xxx · 2020-11-29T03:31:48+00:00

very likely unless you marry

Title	Is it true that you will get lonely when your older?
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Date	November 28, 2020 11:35 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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