Is making her pay, alpha or beta?

Josewasframed · 2016-01-10T20:24:18+00:00

The way I do it...

First date is always 50/50. Of course, some girls don't always understand this and then one of three things will happen..

Scenario 1: If she offers to pay the full amount and does, then I will reward that by paying for something in the future. For example, she buys a round, I'll buy a round.

Scenario 2: If she offers to go 50/50, then just do it. That is truly fair.

Scenario 3: If she does not offer to pay her part or anything at all, I consider if I'm willing to let it slide this one time or next the bitch. That would be a situation-dependent decision, though.

gainzndamez · 2016-01-10T20:36:04+00:00

There's ways to make her pay or put in work. For instance, she asks when she can see you again, you reply "Next week. Where are you taking me?"

Or tell her to come over and cook for you.

Suravira · 2016-01-10T20:47:36+00:00

Sadly for your case it's omega, because by paying for yourself and not her, you're giving the implication that you couldn't be a provider or you're not investing in her

For the first date you can go 50:50, after that only on expensive dates can you go 50:50, after that one or the other needs to pay.

It's alpha to make her pay for both of you, it's somewhere in the middle for you to pay and omega if you consistently split 50:50.

GC0W30 · 2016-01-10T22:30:56+00:00

You can tell a chick all dates are always 50/50 for you before the date, go 50/50 and get first date pussy.

After the first time I did that, I decided it's the only way I'm rolling.

An alpha with adequately-high SMV can get away with going Dutch with any chick that wants to fuck him. Never paying avoids gold-diggers and beta-seekers like nothing else.

Common sense tells us that buying rounds for people, or alternating paying for dinner is fine; not what I'm talking about.

JamesSkepp · 2016-01-10T21:08:35+00:00

Is making her pay, alpha or beta?

Is pointless.

Dr_D1amond · 2016-01-10T21:26:35+00:00

Involvement with a woman. Sooner or late you're gunna pay in one regard or another.

Fulp_Piction · 2016-01-10T21:56:46+00:00

Would you grab a pint for your buddy? Yeah. Would you always pay for drinks for your buddy? Hell no.

Paying for a drink shows high value, remember Looks, Money, Status. Do it the very odd time and it's a good value move. Doing it too often makes you look like you're either trying to buy her attention or you're a provider.

MrFuckupKing · 2016-01-10T22:42:10+00:00

Money is a fascinating dynamic to study. Particularly when used between men and women.

Are you the powerful alpha who demonstrates his power by being able to spend money represented in all the ways money can be spent ?

or........

The supplicating Beta who must pay for a woman's time and attention by the money he spends on her ?

I see money as manure. It does good when spread around but I refuse to pay for a woman's time, attention or company.

It is not about the money but about the person spending it.

If there is any chance you are paying because you think that otherwise she will not want to be with you than do not pay and actually make her pay.

You want to break that habit of needing to use money to get women because it comes out of distorted beliefs about yourself projected onto women. I.E she is better than me so I must pay

This prevents gold diggers/ pseudo prostitutes from being attracted to your money and not "you", plus it makes you confront any insecurities you have about women wanting to be with you for you and nothing else as the belief that no woman will want you unless you somehow buy them.

I have respect for prostitutes who approach sex as a business even if I have no interest in buying their wares but not women who are prostitutes but refuse to admit to that fact.

It is the difference between a mindset of scarcity created out of self doubt and insecurity versus a mindset of abundance created out of confidence and security born out of the person you are (arrival) or are becoming (path to that destination as "arrival")

Always know your own mind concerning how and why you spend money so you do not use money in ways that keep you weak until you have "arrived in that place beyond weakness"

At this point in my life I can afford to be generous because I understand the differences between those women who appreciate it and those that expect it plus I have moved beyond the insecurities that would make it harmful for me to spend my money on women by becoming a man that does not have to.

Title	Is making her pay, alpha or beta?
Author	itsawomensworld
Upvotes	3
Comments	30
Date	January 10, 2016 8:15 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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