Is she cheating?

Nugget_Muffins · 2016-09-05T14:26:59+00:00

First of all, long distance doesn't work for an extended period of time.

Second, yes she's as good as gone if she's blocking you from seeing her night out with her "girls"

HV123 · 2016-09-05T14:39:42+00:00

Yes, yes she is.

fnordsnord · 2016-09-05T17:14:25+00:00

If it makes you feel any better, she may not be cheating, per se. But she HAS lost attraction for you, and she IS looking for a better option.

My best advice for you: Unfriend her on all social media. Block her on your phone. Cut off all contact and then get on with your life.

If she forces contact in some way, wanting to know why, say "You KNOW why."

My second best advice for you: Call her up voice, tell her that the long distance thing isn't working, and that you should both see other people. Wish her well.

Don't negotiate. Don't explain. Just make a clean break.

Then follow the above advice. Because it's over homey. Your only consolation prize is your dignity. You can either become single, or look like a tool and THEN become single.

Good luck.

FuckCity69 · 2016-09-05T15:58:05+00:00

I'm going to go drink about it for a minute, then just get on with my life

FuckCity69 · 2016-09-05T14:39:23+00:00

Fuck

Elfclan30 · 2016-09-05T16:44:42+00:00

long distance relationship

XD

FuckCity69 · 2016-09-05T18:02:34+00:00

Thanks for all the advice guys, there's some helpful stuff here.

I may have jumped the gun on the snapchat thing....I was under the impression that your last story stays there until you post a new one....or does it disappear after a set amount of time?

SlothOnRoids · 2016-09-05T15:56:06+00:00

Long distance rarely works out homie, unless you're fucking her brains out whenever you see her and you're quietly gaming chicks on the side. Might as well start working on other options.

Snooze212 · 2016-09-05T21:05:58+00:00

Your name should be RedFlagCity69.

First is: LDRs just DON'T work out. Fact. And if they 'apparently' did, then the girl (or guy in some cases) cheated but the other one didn't ever find out.

Second is: She blocked you.

Time to move on, friend.

SemperPrimus · 2016-09-05T14:41:16+00:00

get a new gf

FuckCity69 · 2016-09-05T14:30:33+00:00

Fuck

So what do I do from here?

And it's not for an extended period of time just a little less than a year, and she comes home often, and I'm supposed to fly out there every now and then .

GC0W30 · 2016-09-05T17:25:47+00:00

Long-distance relationship = no relationship.

tslextslex · 2016-09-05T20:40:38+00:00

If you have to ask, then you already know the answer.

Next.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2016-09-05T21:39:22+00:00

transitioned into a long distance relationship about a month ago.

You can have "Long Distance" or you can have a "Relationship".

All an LDR is is an imaginary girlfriend who cockblocks you from getting laid wherever you are.

Is she cheating?

"When there is doubt, there is no doubt." -From the Sayings of Chairman Zaitzev

The first 5 months were wonderful but ever since she left for school she's been getting more distant and I've been growing more suspicious.

Sing it, Elvis!

She used to call and text daily, now I'm lucky to get a few sentences here and there and a few minutes on the phone ....she claims she's busy with schoolwork

She's Lost That Lovin' Feelin'

This morning I wake up to find that her snapchat story no longer shows up on my feed, she's still my friend and everything, I just can't see her story. I look into it and apparently you can block specific friends from seeing your story

You just got hit with the Clue Bat, motherfucker.

what is she hiding?

Cock. Miles and miles of cock.

Now I really love this girl and I desperately don't want to be the jealous, suspicious boyfriend, especially if nothing is actually.

I think we all know that it's definitely SOMETHING.

So how do I proceed? How do I confront her about this?

There are two paths, and insofar as it's a lock she's cheating on you, I can't say there's much difference between them.

Either:

(a) break-up with her listing your reasons, i.e., she's not giving you the same attention and she's obviously hiding something because she blocked you on Snapchat, so better to end it, now, because you're a "pull the bandaid off in one motion" kind of guys, or

(b) GFTOW, game other chickes or do whatever because she clearly doesn't give a shit about cheating on you, lying to you, etc., and then when it finally comes out that she's the star attraction at the local gangbang parties, you can go, "Meh. ok. Happy trails" or "Yeah, I figured that out on my own, so I'm running a soft harem now. Have been for months. So why don't you go back to your home on Whore Island!

Either way, it's your call, but don't let her Hamster you into buying her bullshit.

DeltaTriangle · 2016-09-06T02:40:41+00:00

If you have to ask, the answer is always yes.

flying_cumshot · 2016-09-06T01:41:15+00:00

The first 5 months were wonderful but ever since she left for school she's been getting more distant

I wouldn't outright say she is cheating. But she has found someone else she finds attractive, and now she is soft-nexting you. So yea, either way it's over.

quicklogaccount · 2016-09-05T17:26:26+00:00

Soooo.
/u/fnordsnord is giving you the truth there.

I can offer you some crutches though.
Most often guys come here and basically say "so, it seems like the honeymoon phase of my relationship is ending", with a LOT of words and text walls. This notion manifests itself in them as "she's cheating", because this is an easy and visceral fear to have.
Then the guys here come with all the wada wada of "trust your guts", and "of course she is, she's whore, AWALT". This sux, it's support group behavior and most often it's unsuited for more self aware fellows.
Sooo, that put. Yeah, there's something shady there. Do you like the term "emotional affair"? I give it 90% of chances of one. Even if you're cool with her dreaming of sucking some other guy's cock or maybe dreaming you were more like "him" (him might as well be a tonne of orbiters and emotional candy), in a long distance relationship, this will be something out of the gray area of cheating in no time. It's been on for one month, so I'd say, there are sexts, maybe pics, obviously someone you should not know about, but whether she pulled the trigger or not depends a lot on her.

Time to start oneitis damage control.

Title	Is she cheating?
Author	FuckCity69
Upvotes	8
Comments	33
Date	September 5, 2016 2:24 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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