Is there a difference between being in love and oneitis?

ex_addict_bro · 2016-08-31T16:31:25+00:00

Read BlackDragon's blog.

nastynickdr · 2016-08-31T16:45:16+00:00

Oneitis is: "she is the ONLY one for me and ill do whatever it takes to stay with her, she can crap on my head, cheat on me, but in the end, we will be together because we are meant to be"

Shakespaere · 2016-08-31T15:14:22+00:00

Men love women. Women love children. Children love puppies.

"The Man's love for women is different. It more closely resembles the Love a Boy has for his puppy. When a puppy misbehaves (takes a shit on the carpet for example) the Boy is going to be pissed off at the puppy because he will likely be the one that has to clean it up. But when a puppy behaves well and learns to be cute and charming and CONCERNED about the Boy he begins to Love it. When things go well the Boy is PROUD of his puppy." as said by /u/NeoreactionSafe

However there comes a time of extreme disrespect , or a time when you just want to move on and you cut off the girl with no problems. Being in love does not mean that you lack abundance , you just simply care more about a specific person but you can drop them when the time comes.

Having oneitis is allowing a girl to misbehave , simply because you are insecure and are afraid that you won't find anyone better. And you stay with her , because Scarcity.

SkorchZang · 2016-08-31T20:38:07+00:00

Love is a lil different from oneitis, but damn it's nearly as annoying as oneitis anyway.

I always try my fucking best not fall in love, but then over time you end up loving the girl anyway. They make sure of it.

Could be worse, you could love her AND have oneitis for her... I think the real key is cultivating the ability to step outside all your loves and oneitis feelz at will for an objective look at the situation. When you know it's a certain special lever built into your brain that she's triggering, which is designed to render you delusional & helpless to her wiles, you can be a little more self-ironizing and smirk knowingly about these things. You know it's a built-in vulnerability in you, so you're no lover's fool, even while you fully enjoy it together with her.

SoRedSuchAlpha · 2016-09-01T05:44:12+00:00

Yes.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Gaid72fqzNE

rollhax · 2016-08-31T19:24:34+00:00

Take the answers you will inevitably get here with a grain of salt. A lot of dudes are perpetually stuck in the anger phase, and others have swallowed the pill so violently that the Matrix they see consists of falling "AWALT" symbols.

Love who you want how you want, just live for yourself. Don't define yourself by who you love. Do not make anybody else the center of your world. The people in your life are complimentary to it, not its focus.

oldsoulkt · 2016-08-31T15:15:19+00:00

Oneities is:

Attatchment
Neediness
When you find yourself not being able to live without said girl.
When you believe she is your soulmate
When you constantly supply her validation and comfort
When you lose abundance mentality
When you put her on a pedestal
When you stop talking to all other plates to focus on her

Love is:

The opposite of everything above

You can love a woman just don't make your world revolve around her. Be willing and ready to leave the moment she stops making you happy, creates drama, or does sketchy things. Don't fall into the trap believing that she is The one.

Remember you choose to be with a woman, you don't need a woman.

eugeneonline · 2016-08-31T15:10:39+00:00

Title	Is there a difference between being in love and oneitis?
Author	Duke_LFG
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Comments	8
Date	August 31, 2016 3:01 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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