Hi

I need some serious help and experience from you guys regarding a girl I have been dating for like 4 mouth now or something.

Short background
At the late summer she used to go with train to my place like 3-4 times and later on we end up living in the same town. Since then (Like 2-3 mouth) we have been seeing each other like every other day and In the last mouth pretty much every day. She often calls me and put effort into seeing me, today she had an exam and she texted me telling how it went and stuff like that. Kinda close relationship.

But there are some serious red flags that makes me think she just use me as a beta/emotional support (Even if I get the sex)

  1. She have never asked for commitment or have "The talk" and I heard she talked with her grandmother and telling like "The guy that I date and I are going for a walk, he is that old and does that bla bla for a living"
    Question : If she want to "date" me for like 4 mouth and dont title me as boyfriend
    Does that mean my value are to low to be her boyfriend and/or she want to be open for other chads? Or am I just impatience?

  2. Or can It be that some girls need like 6 mouth before they do "the talk" / want to commit?

She are studying and enjoy to go out with her friends, but she use to come to my place after or she call me and we go togehter back to her place. And if I am away she use to call me/text me when she get home from the beers with her classmates

Question : If she want to be open for other chads, why do she want to meet me after the meetings at the bar with her friends? Or maybe she just give her number out to chads and want to be open to "look around" at the bars and just hiding it with "Going out with my class"

Anyways. It does not make sense that she want to see my often but dont want to commit, so I am thinkig I am being used for some reason or something.

Took a "Break up"

I was about to end the relationship for good 3 weeks ago where I said that I cant be with a girl who want to try to challange me that much (her shit tests was insane and all the time) What happend after that was that she came to my place direct and wanted to talk it out. Even if I told her it is better we meet at a cafe and talk about our "relationship" after that she have had been way more submissive and open about her feelings, want me to lead more and are more feminie, submissive etc

But I am not happy with the relationship becouse she dont submit and it makes me feel like I waiste time from my goals and to meet other women that want to call me her boyfriend. Got alot of work to do, so I rather be alone to improve my value/smv so I can meet girls that want to submit instead.

My plan now is just to try and dread her some and see how it works out on her, not seeing her for some days and not answear for long time when she calls. Being busy, see if she cares. She usually double call and double text If I dont respond and stuff like that.

So the big question to you guys

Am I impatience and need to wait more for her to "submit and give the talk" (Like it can take 6 months for some girs or something?)

Or

Am I beeing used as some sort of "Your good enough right now but I want to be open for a REAL chad so I dont commit to you"