I've been in and out of the TRP community. I dropped in here n there when my LTR started last October. As a 22 year old male my sex drive was thru the roof. Her on the other hand was present but low. I initiated all of the contact, was denied slightly under half the time. And the times we got the ball rolling I felt like she was doing it out of pity. I pulled what I'm realizing now was a major beta move and had the "I want you to want me talk"... only to make matters worse. Here I am 11 months deep: getting frustrated by the more occurring denials of sexual activity. its so confusing to me because she got around a lot in college until we settled in.( We used to hook up before relationship started as well, coincidentally those were the best hookups when we hadn't started a relationship. ) I haven't been on here since the beginning and hopefully I'm coming to the light. Sorry for my broken grammar and shitty punctuation.

I suppose the answer to my problems is dread game. I'm lacking patience. And wondering if there's more specifics I should be reading. It's been over two weeks since we have done anything. Even the kiss goodbye or hello seem to be absent of her affection. It's quite depressing. I realize I need to get back in the gym. And create more options. Is there a fast track solution or am I hunkering down for a long trip back to success?

If you need more details let me know. Just wanted to make a quick post to get the ball rolling.

--- edit, this originally failed to post due to me being a new member on here. Since this post I've recently ended it with her. Stating my decline in enjoyment and lazy/complacent nature on both ends. I told her she didn't value my time, and I was a convenience and voiced my sexual frustration. Lots of fuck up in the trp approach. As you can tell I'm new to this and good at shooting myself in the foot. However, after voicing all of this she agreed with me. She said she needs to work on herself and get her kinks out. She has to recenter herself. She reassured me many times she would wait for me because she loved me. So I am a bit perplexed on what to do next. She texted me two days after we broke up. It was Monday morning. She wished me the best and that I find new inspiration and defining moments and that she already has so much to share with me about what she's learned from her mistakes... I wished her well and told her it would be better if we don't speak.
Since the split I've been in the gym every day too. Honestly can feel the immediate impact that has.

That's about all up to speed. If you need more details to asses let me know. Thanks for feedback in advance.