LTR Complaining

UncleEskel · 2019-06-21T15:47:14+00:00

You’re in an LTR, this is your woman. Of course she’s going to come to you. Your job is to be her rock. If she’s over the top, that’s one thing, but your job is to be an unaffected comfort when she’s overwhelmed.

She is a human, have a logical conversation about how she’s going to deal with her issues and solve them. If you can’t handle that, you can’t handle LTRs.

That said, if she turns into a perpetual bitch box despite your efforts, she’s probably not the best choice for an LTR.

acp_rdit · 2019-06-21T16:37:39+00:00

"If you want me to solve a problem I'll solve it, if you want to whine call your girlfriends"

scrambledpancakes · 2019-06-21T19:02:30+00:00

Give her a solution she can work with. My GF is a bit of a hypochondriac and always assumes the worst and gets stressed out about any health or medical issues. I tell her the important thing is to maintain a positive attitude, don't worry about the future. Focus on keeping a positive attitude for today only. Also, when you are with her, you need to maintain that positive attitude as well so she can lean on your reaction. Be stoic, nothing can phase you, but don't be indifferent to what is happening. Show her you can go through it with the right mindset and she will follow.

Red_Pill_Brotherhood · 2019-06-21T18:08:01+00:00

EDIT: say what u/acp_rdit said. Thats gold.

Jeannolapino · 2019-06-21T18:28:28+00:00

If she needs you to help with a solution, she can talk to you. Evolutionary men are problemsolvers, that is what we have been doing for 100.000’s of years. But if she doesn’t want that and only needs venting, complaining, whining and playing the victim she needs to talk to her girlfriends.

MattyAnon · 2019-06-21T19:10:37+00:00

How do I deal with her increased venting to me and whining

"Honey, I know you've got a lot on at the moment. I've got twenty minutes, but after that we're going to put work behind us and have fun".

After twenty minutes you say "time's up".

If she continues, you rant about your day for as long as you can until she learns.

For example she has been getting frequent UTI’s and will text me about how bad it is hurting her. What’s a good response to this? I don’t want to become an emotional tampon.

Urgh, that's annoying.

Ignore them? Say "that sucks"? Find a better LTR?

pachmelstop · 2019-06-22T01:45:32+00:00

If it's LTR you're not an emotional tampon. Girlfriend is not a plate.

Title	LTR Complaining
Author	Pilgrimboy5
Upvotes	13
Comments	18
Date	June 21, 2019 3:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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