I am in LTR about 5 years. My GF is quite conservative, she cooks, cleans, no drugs, does not smoke, have a hobby etc. Her father died when she was child, but nevertheless she has strong respect for him.

To be honest, her clothing style was always weird, but I did not care. Her biggest fear was if something appears too short for going outside. I am little confused because of that. On the one side, I would not like her to dress like a whore, on the other side, it is somehow odd when she dresses like she is 40.

However, I noticed that she cares less for her appearance. Typical excuse is she worked too hard and too much, so she looks tired and messed up. The last bullshit she gave me was that she is the way she is, and that can not be changed. I just waited her to add "other men are also looking at me, so it could not be that bad". She is probably 6, not more, but she is female, which makes the argument stupid.

I am also not sure in which direction should I go. If I persist telling her that she needs to take more care, I am not sure if she will just ignore it. If I stop saying it, she will probably do nothing.

My idea was to go back to gym, work more on myself, and take a little distance to her, because to be honest - girl who does not take care of herself is just turning me off, there is nothing I can do about it. Not sure if that is the right move though.

Thanks.