A few months ago I snooped (yeah I know, beta thing to do) through my LTR's iPad, which is linked to her phone/texts and found a conversation between her and her sister discussing a coworker of my LTR's. It was nothing that would raise red flags except my wondering why they were discussing this guy.

My LTR and I would meet up with her work friends on Tuesdays at a local bar for a trivia night and to just hang out. Her crush (which I didn't know she was crushing on him at that time) was there (around March or April), I met him and he seemed like a normal dude. I actually had good conversation with him. He in fact has a girlfriend himself, who I would consider pretty attractive. I wouldn't really considering him an alpha male, but not really a beta male either.

The text convo I found between my LTR and her sister was a very short and quick text; Her sister asking the next morning if her crush (She didn't say crush, she called him by his actual name) was at the trivia night with us the night before. My LTR said yes, but didn't want to talk any more about it because she was headed to lunch. Still no mention of my LTR having a crush on him in the texts. I'm sure most of their discussions were via phone call anyway.

I read this, thought it was odd, but whatever and I dismissed it (for now).

The end of May, my LTR went on a business trip with several people, one being her crush. Now before you say that they definitely fucked, I've really looked into it and it never happened. In fact, I now know that he isn't interested, but lets pretend for now I didn't know that.

We recently threw a party (End of June) and invited a ton of people over to our apartment; Some of which were my LTR's coworkers and her crush came with his girlfriend. No sketchy or negative behavior came from my LTR, she actually barely even talked to him.

I would say like 85% of the party, I stayed away from my LTR because in the past I think I would mate guard her in certain social situations without knowingly doing it. So, to better myself, I told myself I would do my own thing for most of the party.

This ended up being both good and bad for me. I ended up having a ton of fun and talking to a lot of people, but I also got sucked into heavy drinking. I ended up getting hammered.

The end of the night, just a few of us were left and I said something dumb. I called my LTR out in front of a few of her close friends about her having a crush on this guy. I said it from a whim, not even sure why I said it. I could tell she was extremely embarrassed and quickly denied any of it. I took it at face value because at the time, I didn't have any solid evidence of anything sketchy going on. My LTR also saw me flirting with some girls at the party and I think this made her jealous.

I got really great sex from her the next day.

Several weeks go by.

This entire week, my LTR has been a bit distant. I could sense something was off. So once again, I snooped a bit in her iPad to see if anything sketchy was going on. But this time (those familiar with iMessage) I started punching in keywords in the search bar within iMessage; Sex, hook up, flirt, hotel room, kiss, make out, etc.

Nothing.

So, some time goes by and I finally think of typing "crush" into the search and here pops up a convo from May (when she was on her business trip) that I must have missed between my LTR and her sister.

Her sister: So how are things now with your crush situation? (something along those lines)

LTR: Things are definitely better, for me I mean. (as if she is getting over him)

So my take on it is that she had a crush on him, but either found out he isn't interested or realized that she shouldn't shit where she eats and that she is over it. Or the fact that she actually respects me and wouldn't want to do anything to jeopardize our relationship (highly unlikely haha).

Like I said, I've read conversations between my LTR and her crush and it is simply business related, no red flags at all. I cross checked this as well between different apps she uses, still nothing that I'm aware of.

What do you guys make of this? It is one thing to have a crush on someone and it is another thing to have it as a topic of discussion with a friend or relative for several months.

I'm not naive, I know that anything is possible with these hoes and she could be fucking him and no one knows it, but from the looks of everything, I doubt it.