LTR wants more affection.

cholomite · 2016-02-10T18:58:24+00:00

Soften up a little bit if you want to maintain a happy and healthy LTR. The whole "aloof alpha" thing works with spinning plates and creating mystery with tinder dates, but you need to provide some level of comfort if you want a girl to stick around long term.

Don't get all lovey and mushy on the phone or in texts but next time you're with her, if she brings it up, give her a big long hug and tell her you care about her. Tell her she's special to you or some stupid shit like that.

p.s. look up and read more about comfort tests

1NV0K3R · 2016-02-10T19:01:08+00:00

long distance

fuck that shit

youcantdenythat · 2016-02-10T19:06:51+00:00

I text my LTR a couple of times per day. Some say there is a golden ratio of 2/3. For every 3 texts she sends, you send 2, etc.

My suggestion would be to give her just a little more attention but not too much. Also, tease her a bit for being needy. It's better to tease than to "tell her you don't like her attitude". Use more amused mastery.

My golden ratio is to keep her wanting me more than I want her. Hearing this kind of thing is good. You want her to feel a little dread like you have other options. Maybe not 10th place, but 3rd would be good!.

Rasalom72 · 2016-02-10T19:09:17+00:00

Make sure you lay out right from the start that there is only room for one person in 1st place.. and that's you.

NEVER negotiate from a position of anything but putting yourself first.

nastynickdr · 2016-02-11T00:05:59+00:00

Thats a comfort test. Is she being a good ltr? A good company, not bitching? Not turning down sex / enthusiastic about it? Respecting you, letting you lead? If yes, then you should be increasing your affection / attention.

Danedina · 2016-02-10T22:12:19+00:00

You're going about this the wrong way. It's an LTR, so there's no future. There's no reason for you to play the tough guy holding his frame. Blow smoke at her until she wises up to the fact that you two have no future and she leaves you. You should gaming other chicks anyway. Be busy, but act like you wish you had more time for her.

Playing the tough guy free bird is for local plates who could show up unexpected. You tell LTRs anything because you're not building anything with them. Or better yet, avoid telling them anything serious. Always be goofing, especially when she wants to "talk". You're just playing out the string.

HelloImRIGHT · 2016-02-10T19:52:41+00:00

Oxycontin?

Title	LTR wants more affection.
Author	Shtafoo
Upvotes	11
Comments	11
Date	February 10, 2016 6:52 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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