LTR's and paying for stuff

Gtrplyr3838 · 2020-10-02T22:44:45+00:00

If she is making your life better and it doesn’t bother you, who cares? Do what makes you happy. Just keep aware that you’re not being used or played. You have money to go places and you want her to accompany you, why not? IMO this isn’t being a simp.

NexusReflexX · 2020-10-02T22:54:18+00:00

If you're the one inviting her knowing she doesn't have the funds to pay, and it doesn't affect you, then no I wouldn't ask her to pay.

If she was the one initiating vacations and then making you pay, that'd be a different story.

You said she does pay for meals and stuff so I don't see an issue.

BlocknGhost · 2020-10-02T23:18:50+00:00

Sounds like a good LTR to me. It sounds like she adds value to your life and genuinely appreciates you. Keep doing as you please and enjoying yourself and the relationship. If she stops adding value or detracts it, adjust accordingly.

amwfhunter · 2020-10-03T03:12:16+00:00

Thats totally fine. Many guys think it is beta bucks if u pay. It is all about frame. If you like the finer things in life and can afford it and not doing it to impress her, it doesn't matter. It is when you do it for her or she asks u to pay that it does.

I made like 30 times more than my last plate/ltr, yet she would pay for meals and buy me gifts. In turn when we travel I would take care of hotels because a) I like to stay in nice ones b) I have status in those hotels and get comped anyways. Or I have some pull at the nice restaurants we dine at.

Just when things get serious i.e. she starts living in (not the best idea) pre nup that.

Aspanu24 · 2020-10-03T03:43:08+00:00

Man you’re asking advice that isn’t someone else’s decision. Just do whatever you want dawg

GayLubeOil · 2020-10-03T06:19:53+00:00

Figure out what her hourly wage is and insist she pays you by drawing erotic portraits of you.

Let's be 100% pragmatic about this, if you nickel and dime her she's going to have to sell her time to make up for it and thus spend less time employed as a professional weiner wrangler.

If your spending extravagant money on her that you don't have then that's clearly simp territory. But not all resource exchange for sex is simping.

Let's say your a US marine trading MRE chocolate for Iraqi hand jobs. Is that simping? No. But trading your rifle for a handjob in fallujah definitely is. I think that's the standard.

michael1962-01 · 2020-10-03T07:46:46+00:00

Same here - little different.

I am with a young one who i want 24/7 at my side since few years.

I dont want her to work (beside the work we do together on buildings i own or in the bookkeeping)

She only has minor passive income of a few hundred a month.

So i know that i have to pay most things.

But i do not luxury simp.

She puts all her money on the account i did set up to pay all things. We do not travel first class or stay expensive hotels. Been through this enough in my life.

We both love small achievements. Training the dogs for example. Painting a wall or building together some furniture. Scaffolding (real fun against high anxiety)..

And fu$$ing, going to spa's and things like this.

So - just look at it pragmatic.

Women are like flowers or race horses.

If you want them arround you pay.

As long as you are dominant and lead and are prepared to end it if she misbehaves - all ok.

Title	LTR's and paying for stuff
Author	used2befast
Upvotes	10
Comments	12
Date	October 2, 2020 10:41 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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