Mate Guarding: When and how to React

jayremedy · 2016-05-19T08:29:31+00:00

LOL, these comments are shit. If the girl isn't into it, she'll push him away. If she's into it, then time to next and work on yourself.

TheRedStoic · 2016-05-19T12:36:52+00:00

With your scenario, there are some questions to run through mentally before acting.

1 are you smaller than him.

2 are you not as connected at the venue.

3 did she react positively. (if she doesn't like it, she'll let him know, and no alpha will trump the female victim cry, you're off the hook in that case)

If the answer to any of these is yes, then all you can do is take your knocks. You're simply out of your league. Lift harder and build your smv.

The absolute law is power. Those who lack are going to get the short end of the stick. Those who have will utilize it. I've definitely train wrecked guys before while drunk. I have earned that power, and I'll damned well use it. You can have it too.

Get bigger, get more social proof, get more value, reduce the chances of this problem exponentially. Also, maybe choose different less competitive battlefields until you're ready to rank up.

Even then you will still run into it though, and as far as mate guarding here's an example from about 2 weeks ago.

I got amoged HARD by a guy a full 8 inches taller than me, every bit as built, obviously stronger. His event, I had and have tons of proof, but nothing compared to his home turf. He walked up and literally wrapped his arm around my date. I laughed and asked him if I could take his car for a spin since we're apparently sharing.

He balked, kind of shocked, laughed, and we began chatting together. An hour later situation is in the past and I've made a new alpha friend, my girl is mine, and I've got his respect enough that he won't snipe me, (trust me, he really could, easily, I may be city level, he's coastal, there's no comparison.)

In other words, add value, don't upset a master, turn them into an ally. Make certain you always have something they want, in my case it was the fact that I tactfully took a stand while leaving him a very good looking retreat, in other words, I'm likely not going to win but that's mine and maybe you didn't know is beneath the power talk here. You'll find more often than not, it'll be understood and mutual respect can be established. If you can't, leave, if he won't let you, take your fucking knocks. That's the game, everyone losses, you just lose a little less often as you get better.

Ignore anyone who tells you to cave man it. Cave men also turn tail if risks are high. We're intelligent, we can make a bad situation good with some effort.

Maintain abundance, if she's liking it you know what kind of girl she is. There are others who will view you as the undisputed God. Grab one.

AFPJ · 2016-05-19T04:51:15+00:00

For instance, if you're in a club and a dude walks up to your girl, slaps her ass, and puts his arm around her,

A stiff shove ...at the very least. When people overstep physical bounds, you physically notify them.

What is the consensus for stuff like this?

Unless - and this is important - "your" girl is enjoying it. In which case, that's not your girl - just a hoe you arrived at the club with. Make out and leave with a different one (or, if you can't, go to a different club by yourself) & move on.

blacwidonsfw · 2016-05-20T06:33:00+00:00

this is how you do it.

I was at a club in Mexico with a girl I am dating. I'm chillin with some friends when I tell her to go get me a drink. I see her at the bar and some guy starts chatting her up. I'm not really worried because I know this chick is into me but you can't help feeling a little weird when your girl is getting hit on by some random dude. Plus it's mexico.

So what I do is I go up to the bar next to them as they are talking. 3 of us at the bar and she is between us. As I approach she looks over at me and smiles because she just thinks I'm coming to say hi. However, I throw her a curve ball by sticking my hand out and saying "hi I'm x, what's your name?". She smiles even harder now because she is confused but then kind of gets that I'm just messing with them. I then look the other guy in the eye, smile, and grab my girl and start making out with her for a couple seconds. I then stop, say "nice to meet you!", grab her drink that's in front of her an walk back to my friends.

I think this technically counts as mate guarding but it is at least done in a playful way that I don't think lowered my value in the girls eyes, brought some entertainment to me, and got rid of the other guy. She told me later that he was trying to convince her to do body shots off her.

__NOTORIOUS__ · 2016-05-19T03:52:44+00:00

For instance, if you're in a club and a dude walks up to your girl, slaps her ass, and puts his arm around her, what should you do?

You make sure he never touches someone else's property, ever again.

Mate-guarding is guarding your girl from situations where she might meet other guys. It shows insecurity and weakness, because a high SMV guy wouldn't need to mate guard. He has an abundance of options and his girl knows it.

What you described is putting a disrespectful asshole in there place, not mate-guarding.

Geleemann · 2016-05-19T17:45:09+00:00

Her actions will decide. Judge her on how she reacts, then act accordingly. You either dump her, or she tells him to fuck off

nyjl · 2016-05-19T08:25:02+00:00

If you are not scared - swing. No talking.

If you are scared - leave. No talking.

Title	Mate Guarding: When and how to React
Author	ObamaLover_69
Upvotes	11
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Date	May 19, 2016 3:33 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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