Meditation question.

yes_we_can_t · 2017-05-24T22:44:32+00:00

Grief is a natural and healthy way to deal with loss, whether it's a pet, friend or family. Or all three at once. Don't sweat it.

For meditation, I personally try to feel the emotions as intensely as I can, and then let go. Breathe in: feel, breathe out: let go. Never beat yourself up for "meditating wrong", just every time you notice yourself going off somewhere in your mind, gently and lovingly pull yourself back in. I can recommend "Awakening Loving-Kindness" by Pema Chodron, a mindfulness book I read 20 years ago and still use the techniques from.

Edit: I didn't find a pdf, but you can read some snippets courtesy from Google

aigamithite · 2017-05-25T00:59:06+00:00

Grief and sadness is normal. It's not about waging war against your emotions. Just let them flow.

You have made a connection with your Paige and you are sad and terrified that it might be lost. This is totally understandable and all too human. Your goal with meditation now should be to accept this pain as it is; be grateful you had the chance to connect with your ferret, and less sad that she might go. This is the circle of life. If it brings you to tears that's normal as well. Every time I meditated after I relapsed as a porn addict, I cried and cried. And every time I gained more resolve and more clarity.

Many people misunderstand the purpose of meditation. The point is not to become a detached robot, disconnected by your emotions, but to understand that emotions are normal and healthy, but not necessarily the best spectra by which to perceive life at a given moment. When emotions come, let them be, let them come and let them go. Forcing them back or acting as a total observer means you are fighting them, and this is an emotion in itself (aversion).

You will internalize this in due time; you are on the right path, but it takes time for your unconscious to digest all this. Just hang in there. This phase will too pass.

Enjoy the time you have with Paige and cherish the moments. Remember, be grateful for having her. The other possibility is that you would have never had this connection.

My inbox is open if you need more meditation advice.

just_averagejoe · 2017-05-25T01:32:11+00:00

If you want to speed up your meditation progress, look up hemi-sync. Its like meditation on steroids and roadblocks turn into foot-high hurdles. CIA HEMI-SYNC

BrodinsOats · 2017-05-25T07:44:12+00:00

Let it come, let it be, let it go. You don't need to resist emotions. But you don't need to agonize and suffer for them, either. Try to come to acceptance with them.

That being said, sitting there thinking and ruminating isn't quite what you want to be doing with meditation. Here's what I like to do.

To start, I go over this checklist in my head:

What are my motivations for this practice? I like to vividly imagine how the near-future (weeks, months, or even years) could look if everything went well. As though everything came easy, and I didn't have to struggle. Then, I like to imagine how the day could transpire if it went well, too. I do this with it in mind that meditation will help me achieve my aims.
What are my goals for this practice? I usually try to keep it simple. Either a certain aspect or technique to focus on and practice, or simply just try and improve on my "form" from the last sit.
Resolve to be diligent
Manage my expectations
Review any possible distractions. Acknowledge each one, then set it aside. I like to imagine picking up a rock, turning it over, and setting it down.
Bring awareness to my posture

Then, I

Focus on my surrounding environment
Move the focus inward, scanning my body
Move the focus to the breath, as I sense it with my whole body
Move the focus to the physical sensations of the breath at the tip of the nose

Then, you just try to maintain that focus on the breath. If you notice your mind wander, congratulate yourself! That is the "rep" in meditation, just like the reps in a workout. Let yourself feel good about catching it, and then return your attention back to the breath.

I got this all from the book, The Mind Illuminated, which I highly recommend. You can also read more about the Six Point Preparation for Meditation here.

jd0589 · 2017-05-25T08:07:48+00:00

I always practice quieting my thoughts/emotions while meditating. The point is to be in control of those emotions, and not be ruled by them

Title	Meditation question.
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