Men (peers) shit testing?

fnordsnord · 2015-04-28T19:52:08+00:00

Teenagers are assholers. He's found a soft spot on you that makes you go "ouch," so he pokes it. Because he's an asshole.

DevilishRogue · 2015-04-28T20:03:28+00:00

People who bring others down aren't shit-testing, they're insecure. He almost certainly does it because he feels that you are better than him overall and this is his only way to redress that. Best response is "If height is the only thing you have going for you, you really ought not to brag about your lack of other positive attributes so much".

RPthrowaway123 · 2015-04-28T20:31:23+00:00

It's called AMOG (alpha male of group) and he's trying to assert that he is above you in the social circle. Just shut him down.

Read this one earlier today and I liked it: "They say you are what you eat, is that why you're being such a dick?"

Runarz · 2015-04-28T19:55:43+00:00

Ignore him. Why do you give a shit about lesser men (boys) who is obviously not your friend ?

alreadyredschool · 2015-04-28T20:16:19+00:00

Agree and amplify. And don't take it personal.

TRPMackDaddy · 2015-04-29T05:20:48+00:00

Guys shit talk, that's just how it is. If it isn't friendly witty banter, you have the right to retaliate or not in any way you see fit. AMOGs tend to shit talk the most trying to seem better than you.

A Machiavellian approach I learned is if you can somehow complement their ego in some way they can actually turn and become a valuable asset to you. No one really enforces their own beliefs in their ego because they are dicks so when you can somehow validate it for them, they turn into your ally. Its somewhat tricky though to turn them to your side but its possible.

frazzleddd · 2015-04-28T23:17:13+00:00

It's high school so no need to be very clever. "I can't hear you with all that cock in your mouth" or some stupid shit like that. Back in highschool my friend was a huge dick so another good friend and I started messing around and saying he only was so shitty because he had a small penis. We then proceeded to comfort him about having a small penis. It took an hour or two but eventually he actually was severely upset.refused to talk to us and acted like a bitch over something that was probably not true. Your guy sounds even more insecure so it won't take too long.

unknowncitzen · 2015-04-28T23:38:26+00:00

It's because this is the only thing he has over you. You can respond to it or simply say "and?" With a massive IDGAF attitude just do it every time he says something eventually like all beta's he will know his place.

Dr_Wally · 2015-04-29T01:32:30+00:00

Once i had a 'buddy' that would make alot a jokes at my expense. I took it like you did and always took the high road until one day i got fed up with it. I simple had a comeback make fun of his greatest insecurity. Since that very moment he never said anything again/made a joke at my expense. I suggest you do the same.

you have plenty of time to devise a comeback since he always uses the same line. Drop it on him and preferable with people around. you'll see his attitude change real quick. High school 'buds' need to be reminded sometimes that you are their pal and not a punching bag.

robertpaulsontitties · 2015-04-29T14:31:33+00:00

Figure out what his vulnerabilities are think up some material based around that. Emotional self control is key. Never reveal anger or embarrassment, in spite of the fact that you may often feel both of those emotions, as that reveals hurt and that means he got under your skin. Always deliver insults with a smile. Don't just make comebacks but strike first when good opportunities present themselves. Finally, don't believe in a magic silver bullet line. By this I mean that in movies, TV and books you will often have some character deliver a devastating burn that just totally shuts down their opponent. As in most things, hollywood and reality are at odds. People will sometimes fantasize about delivering THE MOST IMPRESSIVE INSULT EVAR but in reality such instances are rare. Short and quick is better and most wordy, tryhard insults will fall flat. Most verbal sparring is a continuous back and forth in which both sides try to gradually wear down the other.

Title	Men (peers) shit testing?
Author	Gadsden1776
Upvotes	3
Comments	16
Date	April 28, 2015 7:46 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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