My first ever date-what do i do?

Kommanderdude · 2017-08-15T20:18:47+00:00

Have you read any of the side bar? Because if you had you would know the answer.

HamsterShit · 2017-08-15T21:08:44+00:00

Congrats on your first date. And probably the worst one you'll get since you have to come ask a basic question.

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HappyMexican · 2017-08-15T22:11:01+00:00

Three Big Date Tips

Text her before hand to confirm the date. My first date was ruined cause I didn't contact the date the day before or the day of to remind her. She just forgot and bailed on me. If she doesn't reply to you then don't freak out and just skip the date yourself. I still do this today often. Saved me a lot of wasted gas and dinner plans. DO have something planned, doesn't have to be anything BIG. Coffee date, walk in the park, arcade pizza romp or a show to go see. Don't go in asking her "So what do you want to do" lot of girls hate that. That question is like nails on a chalk board.
Look her in the eyes a lot, smile, don't be afraid to touch her. It is WEIRD to be stand offish, TOO polite and never sexual. If you can't grab her hand or even high five her, you never gonna kiss her when the time comes. It really helps if you take a moment while shes talking or doing something else to really look at her and ask yourself if you want to kiss her and why. Be turned on by her presence and don't hide it. (I recommend not jacking off before you date for 2 days ahead of time. It will make you naturally more forward.) Being turned on by her presence is a tool I never used when I was younger. Too busy trying to "Get her to like me", or "Making sure she is having a good time" not enough figuring out if I liked her sexually and why. Picture kissing her, making out with her or more! If you are super turned on you would be surprised how brave you finally feel.
Do NOT spend tons of money on dinner, drinks or anything. Stay with in your budget, don't spend more then you would on a good friend. Men tend to just start throwing money at her quickly, which is cool if you have the money to blow but a lot of guys at 21 do not! Personally, I never really had a big issue with this but I have seen other guys break bank on a girl they only dated a couple of times. You can buy her drinks/food, but keep it in budget (Around 30 bucks is a good rule of thumb, depending on where you live).

bpblues · 2017-08-15T22:30:00+00:00

Start saying her name with your last name, picking out baby names, and looking for houses together. She's probably the one.

Nucka574 · 2017-08-15T20:58:48+00:00

Don't be awkward, make her laugh, kino early.

Peter_B_Long · 2017-08-15T23:59:06+00:00

Most important piece of advice I can give is have fun! Focus on having fun and she should be joining you in your fun. You should be doing things that you feel like doing. I've had a first date at a guitar center because I wanted to buy new strings.

Don't be afraid to escalate / touch. I've given myself a rule / guideline that if I don't kiss her on the first date, then she isn't interested and I'm wasting my time. Wasting your time is the last thing you want. All the multiple dates that you spend with a girl who isn't interested in you could be spent with other girls who are interested and you actually have a chance with.

Grab a drink or 2. Some alcohol will help you relax and enjoy yourself more. If you go for a kiss at the end of the date and she rejects you, don't be upset. Be happy, honestly. Why? because now you know that you can take out other chicks now who will be interested and this girl just made it clear that she's not interested.

Remember to listen to her actions, not her words.

If you sit somewhere to talk, make sure that you're sitting next to her, and not across from her. This will give you a chance to kino and escalate. You can touch her hair, touch her arm, touch her lower back, touch her thigh, etc.

QuasarAfterLife · 2017-08-15T19:53:12+00:00

Hey bro im in your same boat, but once i already fucked up, so let me tell you where i went wrong...

You need confidence and frame, she already decided that you will fuck her so... just go there with big balls.

If i had trp before i did get devastated then... the reason i am here is because of the emotianal bitch i was in that occasion.

GL HF.

Mr-Ed209 · 2017-08-15T23:34:30+00:00

It's probably going to not go so well because you're inexperienced. Remember that, don't be ashamed or embarrassed about it. It's a learning experience.

2 words to remember in your head are lead and touch

The biggest thing I could say, especially with this being an 'action' date is to lead. She's a girl so she will play helpless and look for you to 'teach' her how to paddle board. Own it and confidently show her how to paddle the fuck out of that inanimate piece of fiber glass. Excellent chance to touch her and guide her etc. Remember it's a date - you're supposed to express your interest in a healthy way.

Have a plan for afterwards. This is your first date so I wouldn't recommend jumping in and trying to bed her on the first go. Find a nice lake side bar and grab one drink together. Don't worry about kissing her - it's up in the air when is best to do that but I only usually ever kiss a girl if my intention is to have sex with her right after. Just remember, lead and touch. Use physical contact when telling stories and such. Use the ol thigh on her thigh when sitting next to her if you want to guage interest.

aconsolationprize · 2017-08-16T04:04:55+00:00

Women are empathetic creatures. Personally feel the emotions you want her to feel.

lookingforshantaram · 2017-08-16T00:07:55+00:00

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Title	My first ever date-what do i do?
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Date	August 15, 2017 6:51 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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