Need help with a "you only want sex" type shit test

speed3_freak · 2015-02-19T02:56:11+00:00

"Ok, I'll play. What else do you have to offer me?" Said in a playful tone.

blacwidonsfw · 2015-02-19T02:56:56+00:00

"No problem I like sandwiches as well "

oldredder · 2015-02-19T05:18:42+00:00

if she said: "you only want sex!"

I'd say "... so you noticed I'm a man. That's really good but I have many, many more lessons for you" and smirk.

If she says "I don't feel comfortable with sex being the basis of a relationship" my personal go-to is to state the truth. The truth of my life is: no relationship has ever gone well that doesn't have sex as the basis. It's what male-female relationships are supposed to be. Everything else is just not a relationship.

That being said it could also be a masked comfort-test rather than a shit-test.

Women do desire emotional variability, engagement, meaning, expression. Women want to feel a variety of emotions because of you, even if you don't feel them but the situation's good enough she can imagine you do feel them (and don't deny it even if it's not true).

Getting a woman to accept she's just a plate, a thing for sex, means either she's good with it and understands it, or she's not getting it yet but still putting out until she isn't and you move on.

If you really want a woman for sex PLUS something emotional, something intellectually meaningful, just make sure you have the sex first and give her the rest as long as she's putting out - and be the man of character, of quality, that has something else of value to give and to her that value is emotion and seeing what you are/do proves your worth/strength as a man.

If she sees you're weak, faking it, uninterested in this or just empty in your life aside from sex with her that won't go over so well - unless a woman flat out only wants you for sex. And then obviously won't do this kind of comfort-test then, maybe a shit-test but maybe not this particular one.

asd1100 · 2015-02-19T06:52:57+00:00

Now of course I don't ONLY want to have sex with her

WHY NOT?

That may be the problem, you don't know what you want, aren't honest with what you want and she picks up on that incertainty and pushes you towards what she wants.

Any advice on how I should handle this?

Figure out what you want.

tell her what you want and what you are willing to give.

let her choose to stay or leave knowing what she can get from you.

Itsanumbuhgame · 2015-02-19T05:20:38+00:00

Dont apologize. Not sure what your relationship is like or how it started, but you can go about it two ways:

"What are you lookin for?" or "K" and that be that if youre not trying to do anything else.

NiftyDolphin · 2015-02-19T18:37:50+00:00

Golden Vagina Syndrome.

She feels that the value she's providing to you: access to her vagina, is superior to the value you are providing to her: entertainment and investment.

Note I didn't say "sex" or "access to your dick?" Why? Because if she wanted those things from you she wouldn't be hitting you up with the phrase: "I don't feel comfortable with sex being the basis of our relationship."

Sex is freely available to a hot woman. It doesn't hold the same value for them as it does to you or me.

So when she says that, hear what she's actually saying: "I want to negotiate for a higher fee. Gimme."

/u/speed3_freak's response: "What else do you have to offer me?" is a good one. It confirms that negotiations are underway, but you're not giving up anything without her providing more value to you.

tombreck2 · 2015-02-19T14:52:09+00:00

You: is that all the you have to offer?

Text for logistics only

kingofpoplives · 2015-02-19T15:31:13+00:00

Any advice on how I should handle this?

Ignore it. Prepare for this plate to drop.

redpilldude · 2015-02-19T19:36:49+00:00

She's trying to push you into making her your gf.

Proper response is agree and amplify: "I like your cooking also!"

betarex · 2015-02-19T22:51:44+00:00

"Well what else do you have to offer?"

Title	Need help with a "you only want sex" type shit test
Author	8shark8
Upvotes	4
Comments	10
Date	February 19, 2015 2:08 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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