Nerdy hobbies lower SMV

mystery_man_1996 · 2018-10-27T18:20:07+00:00

I know I'm a dude and you're not looking for this but I'm impressed with those hobbies, most people these days have no hobbies but clubbing and partying. If you enjoy those things man you do you and trust me it will all lay out nicely. It's a myth that guys have to do all these "men stuff" like partying, fighting, etc. They look more forward into a man who is invested in their shit that's all. Even if you decided into going into mma, as long as you aren't into it won't do any good. Stick with what you love and do it for you my dude that's my 2 cents.

light-----------dark · 2018-10-27T19:06:15+00:00

Those hobbies are legit as fuck, and will most certainly increase your long term SMV.

Keep working out and getting fit, and no woman will care what hobbies you have.

Also, just keep a cool/mysterious vibe around others, and your SMV will increase drastically. Don’t go spouting off quotes from Plato when you’re around others, and you should be fine.

If a woman asks what you’re into, you paint a picture of your future, and connect the dots as to how your hobbies are creating that future for you. Make it seem like a future she wants to be a part of.

-Third-Eye-Open- · 2018-10-27T18:11:34+00:00

Join a boxing/MMA club

throwitdownman · 2018-10-27T19:23:10+00:00

What you need is a ‘jock’ mindset, or as we call it, frame. You’re that dude who is cool, who also plays chess.

It’s hard to develop that. The easiest way is to actually do jock things, therefore hanging out with other testosterone filled men, and getting the feeling of being popular. After you have experienced how easy it is to become popular, you can go back into your hobbies with your new found SMV, and self-confidence.

In high school, another shortcut in boosting SMV is getting a girlfriend. Girls gossip, she’ll be your messenger telling others how alpha you are.

Those are two shortcuts. The less cheap way to do it is just approach more. Talk to girls, and don’t discuss your hobbies with women. SMV does not have to be correlated with your hobbies - it’s the image they see of you. If they see a guy who’s approaching women confidently, the last thing they’ll think about are your chess skills.

Xanax_Guy · 2018-10-27T19:23:35+00:00

It's just the young vibe thing. They will be seen as attractive hobbies in couple of years if you are attractive yourself. It's like Alpha Fucks + providing ability = ubermensch

Xanax_Guy · 2018-10-27T19:23:45+00:00

It's just the young vibe thing. They will be seen as attractive hobbies in couple of years if you are attractive yourself. It's like Alpha Fucks + providing ability = ubermensch

NotoriousSnake · 2018-10-27T18:54:38+00:00

Honestly bro, this sounds pretty fucking cool.

BUT you're concerned people see you as a loser and I get that.

Drop one hobby (if you can't make time) and pick up BJJ. I started a month ago and the confidence boost is amazing. I actually less likely to get into a street fight now bc I'm way more chill in public.

Get Instagram and post about your wins in each club. Your frame is that you're almost like Tony Stark so you have brains and brawn (never stop lifting)

Get a nice phone (pixel 3 or iphone) so you have hq photographs of yourself and get Instagram. Don't post too often, only about once a month (or whenever you get major wins in each hobby)

Also this is all under the assumption you're a master at each hobby. If not, that's your first job. Own each thing and become the situational alpha in them. They'll probably have girls so that's where your plate game starts.

Remember these hobbies are to improve both your mental and physical game.

Feel free to ask questions

wtfffffffff10 · 2018-10-27T19:48:28+00:00

Honestly dude you seem pretty cool. Like others said, keep the "work hard, play hard" attitude going and your smv will skyrocket long term. As for now probably just say you play sports even if you dont, chicks dont know the difference.

dr_warlock · 2018-10-28T00:31:46+00:00

There's nothing wrong with these hobbies. Just know that women don't give a shit about you being 'interesting' as in 'cultured' and 'intelligent'. Interesting to them means feels for her in social activity she could see herself hanging around in. So continue doing what you're doing, but just know (hot) women don't care or wont like it. This will not help your SMV in anyway.

MojoManUltra · 2018-10-28T05:21:03+00:00

Bruh ask a girl to play some chess or go with you lol it’s weird but that’s what I do 🤷🏻‍♂️ if they don’t know how too, they usually enjoy playing ;)

jackandjill22 · 2018-10-28T12:16:35+00:00

Hm...

Psychological_Radish · 2018-10-28T16:32:02+00:00

people see me as a loser because of my hobbies.

I seriously doubt that. That's some fucked up self-perception that only exists in your mind because of the media or whatever.

Chicks find mastery attractive; what you're a master of doesn't matter a whole lot. Sure, being captain of the football team would be ideal, but plenty of good looking girls dig my intellectual pursuits. Most likely there are girls giggling to themselves about how hot you are, you are just too oblivious to IOIs to notice. HS is an awkward time for everyone in general.

Title	Nerdy hobbies lower SMV
Author	Untilthink
Upvotes	3
Comments	44
Date	October 27, 2018 6:04 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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