Newbie question

Soderbergh · 2018-01-10T04:20:18+00:00

You act up and down. One minute you chat her up then for 3 days you don’t give a shit. Then one day make flirty remark and another day say “hey what was your name again?” That kind of shit. It drives them wild.

chazthundergut · 2018-01-10T07:50:49+00:00

"Acting aloof" can be a little misleading.

I am very forward with women and do not hold back in the least in expressing my sexual desire to them. But I don't say it outright. I communicate it through my eye contact, through my playful flirting, through my kino, etc.

You want to act aloof in terms of not being thirsty. That is, you are not emotionally attached to her, and you will not be hurt in any way by her rejection. And you aren't looking for commitment.

But by all means put yourself out there. Taking a shot is the best way to demonstrate your non-neediness, because you are opening yourself up to rejection. Behave around her in such a way that communicates that you don't mind at all if things don't work out with her. Say whatever you want, act however you want, tease her playfully.

But I've never agreed with the idea of acting like you're not interested. I act like I am an attractive male who thinks she is sexy and wants to take her to my place and fuck her till she's making animal noises into my pillow. Again, I say none of this. I communicate it by being present with her in the moment and allowing myself to feel my animal desire towards her, and letting her feel my animal desire too.

However, it's not a "I need to fuck you" type of vibe. It's a "I want to fuck you, and you won't regret fucking me" vibe. And it is non-needy, because I have other options, and I behave that way around her by not smothering her or worshipping her. And by acting naturally and not worrying about if I say or do the wrong thing, because if she gets turned off so what? I'll just go hang with someone else.

I don't know, as I write this I realize that it might be confusing to some. In some ways, it is. It is like a dance. The less you think about it, and the more naturally you can act, the better.

Your best bet is to maximize your SMV by working out, keeping a good diet, focusing on your mission in life, taking women off the pedestal, and reconnecting with your raw, masculine, testosterone-fueled, animal side.

Then get out there and start flirting with chicks. Swallow your fear and just go for it.

I was rejected countless times before I figured this shit out. And I still get rejected all the time. Who cares?

Ricky469 · 2018-01-10T03:41:06+00:00

You don't act like you're incapable of interacting with women. You flirt, you appear like you have an abundance mentality. If she wants sex and you find her attractive fuck her, if she plays hard to get or tries to friend zone you walk away and go for another. Making a woman doubt her ability to attract you will make her actually chase you. You gave to remain in control.

sh4rkl4ser · 2018-01-10T05:47:48+00:00

Attract, don’t pursue. You can be fun and fun loving, and the conversation will flow naturally, and never for a second be chasing.

Title	Newbie question
Author	HastTagLavishLust
Upvotes	2
Comments	4
Date	January 10, 2018 12:12 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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