Nice guy vibe + question

Rasalom72 · 2016-02-26T14:19:41+00:00

The "nice guy" thing is not always bad. She might be expressing to her friend that you seem like a worthy prospect for a relationship.

It's up to you to turn that interest into sex. You need to talk to the woman in question, and make sure that the talk turns sexual... make sure she understands that you will make her orgasm, and that's when you use "Because nice guys finish last. wink and smile."

PemBayliss · 2016-02-26T14:22:51+00:00

It's hard to know what you're doing that gives off a nice guy vibe on the small amount of text you're telling us. You might think you were calm and confident, but you might not have come off that way.

1) people from your past who see you as the "nice guy" - well, just know you probably won't be sleeping with any of them and you won't be getting any of your GFs or sex partners from any of their friends. Beyond that, you have to decide if you want them in your life.

2) Nice guy characteristics are, in general (a nice guy may have only a few of these)

-- talk a lot to girls in a nonescalatory way.

-- talk a lot, in general.

-- smile a lot.

-- try to white knight for other people.

-- volunteer to help others, especially women (i.e. damsels in distress).

-- talk about their feelings a lot.

-- have platonic friendships with many girls and women.

ag_nuke · 2016-02-26T16:04:49+00:00

That's not always an insult. It can mean that you're just a cool guy to have a around.

If you want to spark up some intrigue/mystery/dominance cultivate those qualities.

nastynickdr · 2016-02-26T15:55:16+00:00

Do you dress like a dork? Like saggy jeans with those sports shoes?

Do you walk with bad posture / making yourself "smaller" / looking down?

Have nerdy glasses?

Timid/introverted?

third-eye-brown · 2016-02-26T18:55:43+00:00

Look more dangerous. Stop smiling by default. Your default expression should be a hard stare and a mild scowl, which a smile often breaks through. Like "I don't take no shit, but I've got a sense of humor / amused mastery".

You probably have "resting smile face" which makes you look like a goofball. Be more serious. Just practice it for a while and it will become natural.

yGTWgtNrco · 2016-02-26T19:55:15+00:00

Perhaps your microexpressions are giving them that vibe? If so, they are difficult-to-near-impossible to control. Just be direct about your intentions and make sure you're congruent with your true desires when talking to people.

In general, girls are more attuned to this sort of thing than guys are.

Girls who tell me that I'm not the one for them (and there are many who do) don't phase me; I thank them for their honesty and move on to the next one.

I've also done a considerable amount of reading on body language and non-verbal communication, so that I can tell what to look for in a person.

On the other hand, I was blessed with aspergers, so I'm very much, a visual learner. I have binders full of notes on what I've read through my life -- perhaps a tad OCD, but it helped me get through education and continues to help me be productive at work.

Yes, it is tough to break free from labels, so own them.

For example, one of the girls, at a lunar new year's party, last night told me I was probably a midget, as I'm shorter than the average male. I told her that my height (or lack thereof) has no bearing on how loudly she'll scream from the orgasm I can give her.

Title	Nice guy vibe + question
Author	yes_y0u_can
Upvotes	7
Comments	7
Date	February 26, 2016 2:16 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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