Not energetic/fun enough?

0io- · 2019-07-30T00:38:49+00:00

Generally speaking if you can make out with a girl you can get laid with that same girl, so that's just a matter of your actually doing it.

You're going to have to work on your conversation skills. Just keep asking open ended questions about what she's talking about. First date stuff is FORD not RAPE, family, occupation, recreation, dreams (all good topics); religion, abortion, politics, exes or economics (bad topics.)

So you can ask if she has any brothers or sisters, what she does for fun, what kind of work she does or wants to do, what her plans or ambitions are.... pick one detail that she mentioned and ask about that. Conversation skills are not hard, really, but you're going to have to learn. If you do it right she'll be doing 80% of the talking, and you just kind of go with the flow and ask questions here and there.

If you start making out with her, suggest going back to her room or your room. There's not much to it. Don't intellectualize and over-think things.

lugrulo · 2019-07-30T00:38:40+00:00

I’ve been there. Social skills are just that - skills. There is nothing about you as a person that is preventing you from interacting in a sociable manner.

It sounds like you have social anxiety. That’s fine. You will get through it. But first, stop trying to say the “perfect thing”. Just listen, and be present in the moment. Meditation will help you in this process. The natural thing will be the “right” thing to say, and that takes being present.

You have a propensity to overanalyse. When you realize you are doing that, bring yourself back to the present, and let your attention rest on what the other person is saying.

RAGNAR_GZ · 2019-07-30T02:43:54+00:00

I used to be the same way man. One thing that helped me is focusing on one person. Just make a connection with the in some way (sports, hometown, trips, movies). This will get you opened up a bit and break your “ice.”

Don’t put pressure on yourself and remember that nobody really is paying much attention to you. Try to remember what anyone in the world wore two days ago?

BaronIncognito · 2019-07-30T11:41:04+00:00

Joining a fraternity was the best decision I made in college for many reasons, including access to hot chicks.

Pay attention to what your more successful friends do. Did you pay attention to what the other talked about and did with the girl that lost interest in taking to you? You have good role models to emulate, take advantage of it.

You will fuck up if you try, it goes with the turf, but you will learn it’s only a big deal if you make it one.

H0tTamal3 · 2019-07-30T13:52:21+00:00

OP you need to make yourself more extroverted. Do this by talking to people throughout your day. It doesn't need to be much at first, just a quick "what great weather we're having" or ask a question to someone in line at the store about something they are about to purchase. Do this every day, any time you are in public.

If you're really shy start with old people, they love attention. Talk to the big fat middle aged guy. Talk to the 5 year old waiting in line with his mom. Make it your mission to just have quick 5 second to 2 minute conversations with as many people as you can.

Make this your mission any time you leave your fap cave and before you know it you will have hordes of bitches clinging onto every word you say.

Title	Not energetic/fun enough?
Author	asseatinking
Upvotes	16
Comments	7
Date	July 29, 2019 10:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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