Oneitis and evolution

oneoho · 2016-06-28T19:31:29+00:00

oneitis only develops if you lack abundance, RP preaches abundance.

trpthroway123 · 2016-06-28T20:09:48+00:00

Marriage, especially to a single person, is a relatively new construct of society (on the scale of human civilization). In many older cultures, it's still to this day accepted that a man will have as many wives as he can support. Even in places like China where polygamy is illegal, it was widely accepted through history that successful males would keep multiple households, concubines.

Humans, hominids in general, don't pair for reproduction in the wild. Alpha males mate with the alpha females, as many as he can, and leaves the non-alphas to fight over his scraps. Heck, just look at the similarities between Gorilla mating and Human mating

Modern society has imposed monogamy, and human nature has rebelled. "Serial Monogamy" has become far more common, 50% or more of marriages end in divorce, and those who divorce are married an average of 3 times with at least 2 separate sets of children. Sort of the same difference in the long run, a polygamous marriage often starts with one and adds more down the line, with the alpha preferring to knock up the younger wives while the older ones run the house.

TL;DR: Oneitis is your warped response to conform to societal pressures. Nature wants you to be polygamous, society wants you to be monogamous, so you develop oneitis to help justify and rationalize this "reality" you must accept in order to fit into society.

PhoneticJustice · 2016-06-29T16:46:28+00:00

I'm seeing a lot of overly complicated answers.

There's two mating strategies a man has to ensure he passes on his genes.

Fuck ALL of the women, and hope that a fraction of your kids survive the wild. Some may live and many will die.

Or fuck ONE woman and dedicate your life to ensuring that your children with her survive. Thus, oneitis, and your genes are passed on.

nicetimevers · 2016-06-28T22:34:36+00:00

imo the purpose of oneitis is to let alpha widows have a provider (beta oneited orbiter).

alpha men fucks and impregnate women. beta oneitised men take care of women (and if they are lucky they can even fuck once in a while).

without oneitis there would be no betas, so women could not survive without a provider (a beta that can take care of them).

AlfredApple · 2016-06-28T22:29:23+00:00

But the truth is- men have a mechanism to develop Oneitis and our psychological mechanisms were formed by evolution.

You do not understand evolution or have been told incorrect information.

Title	Oneitis and evolution
Author	Barsukas_Tukas
Upvotes	2
Comments	6
Date	June 28, 2016 7:17 PM UTC (10 years ago)
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